lbfbeaumont Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 ..i've known girls who didn't have sex, but were willing to blow any guy that came their way, and would let guys do anything at all to them, except have sex. you don't have to have sex to be a slut, that's for sure. That's true, and I've met people like that as well. Virginity doesn't necessarily mean lack of sexual experiences (outside of one technicality). Big misconception.
Pyro Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 i knew there was one of you out there! A rare breed I would guess.
Linda_411 Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 Guys may think it's a turn on. In my relationship I was the virgin, and he wasn't, and he said that he liked it that I was pure. but I don't know I guess every guy thinks differently.
Tut Posted September 17, 2005 Posted September 17, 2005 This is a kind of personal question, but I would really like an honest answer from a guys perspective. If a guy finds out that a girl he likes is a virgin and wants to save herself for her husband does that make him run away? I'm still a virgin. I've had many opportunities to lose it but I truly believe that waiting for the right guy will pay off. The problem is, when I do meet guys that I think would be good boyfriends, as soon as I tell them my beliefs a lot of them think of me as a conquest or that because I've never had sex I must be burning with lust inside. Then it gets awkward for me because I don't know if they really like me or their enjoying the possibility of bragging to their friends that they took a girls virginity. Are there any other virgins who feel this way? And how do you deal with it? Sincerely, buzzie2 Buzzie, I am a guy; I'm in the exact same position as you and I feel exactly the same you do about this issue. No I absolutely don't think this is a problem, in fact I think it's among the greatest of assets; not in the materialistic sense, but more that it often refeclts the will power and strength needed for the upholding of a certain idealistic philosophy that is being lost to time with each passing day, in exchange of mundane and practical notions of releiving curiosity or self-gratification. That idea of perserving yourself, your body, mind and innocence; perserving those first memories, sensations and experiences for a worthy and special person; for those memories will surely be engraved in your heart and mind until your death; and that is the nature of the human mind. Such a powerful memory is meant to be associated with something positive, or it can be a daunting memory, nobody wants that. If you meet a man and he seems far too concerned about having sex with you, to even pressuer you against your doubts and morals; Then you can rest assured that he has already fallen in love with something else; and that thing is sex, it is not you. And that his care is for the fulfillment of his own desires; and not for you. If a companionship is pure, that person will enjoy spending time with you no matter what you're doing or where you are and he will respect your beleifs whole heartedly; and in that case he would certainly be willing to wait; since he would already be satisfied to simply be in your company. I'm 20 years old and going to university, I know first hand that there is a lot of temptation. It just takes some patience and perseverence, and assurance that you're on the right path, and god willing, you will ultimately find someone worthy who has made the same commtiment that you have. And if by some chance you don't then it was something worth the effort. The best things in life are the most difficult to attain. And only the things you struggle for are the only things worth having. remember that.
Mary3 Posted September 18, 2005 Posted September 18, 2005 I think the very idea that you are a virgin...in unknown territory for him...that he would want to be the first to bag it....He would always be known as your first. I think about my first and 2 months later he wanted someone else. Once the novelty wears off ...they are gone.. If you are holding onto it for whatever reason, continue to do what you believe in. But know that very few will wait til marriage.
big_girls_rock Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Lol- we are going extinct but I am not backing down. I too and waiting for marriage because of religious beliefs but I do think its true that once a guy finds out hes gone. Sex is sooo expected in relationships nowadays and it annoys the crap out of me because you really don't know who to trust. Sometimes guys are after you to win you over and when they realized you arn't going to budge they disappear. Thats why when it comes to guys I just except friends ( and it can happen if the motives are ship shape ). If a guy is interested in me I make sure I know his motives and lay it out on the line that I am waiting for marriage and Im necessarily NOT ready to marry so it looks like im not gonna be getting any soon- but Im o.k. with that! That way we can still date and get to know eachother and still be a couple but we arn't necessarily responsible for eachother's sexual predicament. But I do have to say that it is harder for me to find a guy like that but Im not gonna lower my standards for something that I have my whole life to experience. And for the whole " virgins suck in bed " everyone has their own style- I am a virgin but I happen to know a lot about it- through masturbation and whatever else- couples have their whole lives to practice sex so why should I worry? Not everyone is gonna be perfect at the first time when doing things- it takes practice and heck you will have fun doing just that.
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