Jane3322 Posted September 19, 2018 Posted September 19, 2018 Hi guys, I might sound immature when I say this but I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year because of the following reason: every time we go on vacation( we have been on 10 vacations) he posts multiple pictures of him alone. On instagram he will only put me in the “story” which disappears in 24 hours. He also asks me to make sure his profile is private. Before I continue, he does have pictures of me but from a year ago like thanksgiving. After a year I have no longer shown up in any pics on his profile. I confronted him about it and he said he does not want drama with his baby mama (he has a 3 year old). But how does that make sense if he has old pictures of us on his profile? I don’t know what to believe, if he is ashamed of me or hiding me from the baby mama. Mind you they have a custody aggreement. I feel that any man who loves me would tell the world i am his gf and defend me till the end. We have been together for one year and the baby mama has no idea I exist. He also hides my car so she won’t see I stay at his house . Any opinions are welcome!!!
PegNosePete Posted September 19, 2018 Posted September 19, 2018 He who has nothing to hide, hides nothing. In some circumstances it's quite a good idea to keep a GF secret in the initial stages of dating. But after 1 year he should be able to tell everyone. If his baby mama has a problem with him having a GF after so long then this blended family thing is going to be a whole lot of drama wayyy in to the future, and you certainly dodged a bullet there.
Happy Lemming Posted September 19, 2018 Posted September 19, 2018 He is tired of fighting with his "baby mama" and decided its easier to keep a low profile. Either that or he has ran out of money to pay attorney fees to see his kid, so this "low profile" may be both cheaper and easier. The fact that he wants to see his child is commendable. What is so all powerful important about social media... Who really cares whom is going where on vacation and with what person; other than his immediate family and very close friends, no one... I doubt they even care. If your asking does this sound immature... In a word "YES"!! What if he took down his social media page and had no social media, whatsoever?? For the record, I have NO social media at all, and my life is just fine. Just my two cents...
anika99 Posted September 19, 2018 Posted September 19, 2018 If this were just about him not posting pictures of you on social media then I would say that yes, you are being immature. However this goes beyond social media as he also wants your car hidden when you visit him and he has outright told you he doesn't want his ex knowing about you. That is a problem. Not saying he needs to rub his ex's face in his new relationship but taking deliberate steps to keep you hidden means he's got unfinished business with his ex. Maybe she's just a creepy stalker or maybe he likes her to think there's a chance they will get back together. Maybe he is even still seeing her behind your back. Could be any of those things. In any case his ex has a presence in his life that shouldn't be there and you were 100% right to break up with him. The first time a guy told me I have to hide my car so his ex doesn't see it would have been the end for me. 2
Happy Lemming Posted September 19, 2018 Posted September 19, 2018 He also hides my car so she won’t see I stay at his house . Yea... I dated this woman that had this crazy ex-husband and I had to park my car around the corner. In addition to making her life a little easier, there was less chance of my car getting vandalized or keyed by the ex-husband. It didn't bother me. Maybe your ex was trying to protect your car from his crazy ex... Is "baby mama" capable of damaging your vehicle?? In my case, I really liked dating this woman, so it was worth the extra effort to put my car on the next block over.
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