Free dinner?

[Navybluegal]

Talking to a guy I met online. The conversation over the phone went well. As we were wrapping it up, he suggested to meet. I said that it's a good idea since we seem to have a lot to chat about. He responded "if anything, you'll get a free dinner out of it". I'm the type who is the furthest away from dating for free dinner's sake. Am I right to be mad at this comment? Or should I not pay attention to it?

[basil67]

I hear you. I'm like you and would be a bit put off by the comment....but not enough to be mad. I'd let it go and see what he's like as you get to know him. I think one of the problems with OLD is that it's too easy to write someone off too quickly.

[PegNosePete]

I would say it's one of 2 things:

 

1) He's been burned by this in the past, and may be a bit bitter

2) It's just a bad attempt at self-deprecating humour

[guest569]

I think it's a bit of a downer but he was probably just trying for self deprecating humour. I would give him a chance but be on the lookout for negativity.

[basil67]

Pete and smiley pretty much sum up my thoughts. Give him a chance but be aware of the potential for negativity. Hopefully it won't be an issue.

[d0nnivain]

It's a fairly common joke. You would have been better served addressing the comment when he made it & setting the record straight that you are not looking for hand outs but all in all it was just a joke that fell flat. See how the date goes but perhaps rearrange it to something cheaper or free, not dinner.

[ChatroomHero]

It was a simple joke and not a commentary directed at you personally so I wouldn't take it as one.

[Standard-Fare]

I don't like it either but it's not significant enough to be a dealbreaker. Give him a chance in person.

[clia]

It was a joke. You were supposed to laugh.

[alphamale]

just tell him that for the first date you would prefer to pay for your meal

[smackie9]

Should have responded cheerfully with "Not necessarily....I don't have an issue paying my share of the bill (smile)."