agnf666 Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 My best friend is in the navy and is stationed in Washington State. On eof the guys she met was interested in talking to me because our birthday happened to be on the same day. So, I have been talking to this guy since January. He is from New Mexico and I am from Pennsylvania. He hasn't had a girlfriend for 4 yrs. I don't understand why he is very cute. I have been thinking what if we happen to start a Long Distance Relationship. I know it would be super hard. Considering he is over 2,000 miles away from me and his home town isn't close either. I have no clue what to do. Then there is this guy I work with. I'm interested in him but he is too shy to do anything. I'm afraid once that if I get involved LDR then I will miss out on dating my this guy I work with. I'm so confused... Any suggestions or advice would be great.
TnT Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 I think u should go on a date with this guy from work and c how it goes... if he is great and u r into each other, go for it. If not, try and do the LDR thing. Obviously LDRs are hard, anyone will tell u that, but u never know, he might be worth it!!!
freesoul Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 I agree as well. Try and start a conversation with the guy at work and see what happens there. Start a conversation as friends if he is shy. If things don't work, try the LDR........ Good luck with whichever choice you go for:)
Author agnf666 Posted September 8, 2005 Author Posted September 8, 2005 I have tried to talk to this guy from work. He is very shy. I'm not sure if he has an issue with our age difference or not but he is nice but I think he will just be friends material. Then when I get involved with the LDR then he will come around. That's how things happen for me. I guess I will just have to wait and see what goes on. I really think I will go for the LDR. Hopefully that will work out.
Author agnf666 Posted October 22, 2005 Author Posted October 22, 2005 Update for you guys that posted. So, me and the LDR guy have been having more intimate and longer phone conversations. Since then I have really fell hard for him. Since he is in the navy and they go out to see sometimes I can't talk to him alot. He was the one to pursue talking to me. He asked my friend for my email address and started talking to me back in April. I think he might be the guy I want to go for. So, how does this thing work? Can you be in love with someone you haven't met? Has anyone dated anyone in the Navy before???
TnT Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Wow, thats good to hear. I know u can fall in love with someone without meeting, just depends to what degree. I would advice to be careful, before u fall in love and everything like that... think about the future.... i mean, how long is it going to be a LRD? Are u going to have to move to be with him? or is he going to move to be with u? These LRDs are very hard IMO. Im not with mine anymore, we broke up last time i was there, which was about 3 weeks ago, and i am hurting alot. I thought the transition was going to be easier, but it wasnt. I cant imagine myself living in the USA. I love Australia too much...lol, but it was hard without my girlfriends being there to talk to, to cry to, to b**** to... etc etc Everyone is diff, and every situation is diff, so i wish u all the best... just follow ur heart at the end of the day... u only live once!!!
westernxer Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Considering he is over 2,000 miles away from me and his home town isn't close either. I have no clue what to do. I do. Date locally.
pippen_2k Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 If you actually knew the guy persoanlly and have met before, then id say this LDR could work. But since you guys have never met I think your falling for a guy in your head... your probably making him out to be better than he really is... but I dunno cause either of us know him. Personally id never ever get involved with someone ive never met. Seems like a total waste of time, money and effort to me. Stick with people you can actually spend time with.
Author agnf666 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 I did say stick to local guys.. but since local guys in my area suck.. I decided why not just let this thing unfold. I know that we will met soon. He likes to travel so he will probably come see me. This would be a LDR that someone will have to move to be together. Now, since he is in the navy he moves all the time so he might move here if we get to that point. TnT, you understand the thing about falling in love with someone you haven;t met before. What happens when you met him was he different then what you expected? My heart and my mind are telling me that this is the right guy and alot of other people are telling me this too. There is alot of wierd things that make this relationship right. Like our birthday, he is the only one that calls me by my middle name. So, my aunt is like that is wierd that he calls you that that has to be a sign because your middle name is your great grandmothers name and she always wanted good things to happen to good people so maybe she did this. I know that is kindof retarded to think about but it is strange. I'm going for it. I have nothing to lose. I haven't dated anyone in about a year so what the hell.
Outcast Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 TnT, you understand the thing about falling in love with someone you haven;t met before. What happens when you met him was he different then what you expected? Until you meet someone, you haven't fallen in love with that person. You are maybe in love with a piece of that person but not the whole person. Don't fool yourself. There are lots of people who believed themselves madly in love with someone on the Internet - and then they met. My heart and my mind are telling me that this is the right guy and alot of other people are telling me this too. That is because people like to believe in fairy tales even though real life is nothing like fantasy life. There is alot of wierd things that make this relationship right. Like our birthday, he is the only one that calls me by my middle name. So, my aunt is like that is wierd that he calls you that that has to be a sign because your middle name is your great grandmothers name and she always wanted good things to happen to good people so maybe she did this. Really, 'signs' like this mean nothing. There is much more that goes into the personality and character of a person than you can possibly understand or know through long distance communication alone.
slubberdegullion Posted October 25, 2005 Posted October 25, 2005 Until you meet someone, you haven't fallen in love with that person. You are maybe in love with a piece of that person but not the whole person. Don't fool yourself. There are lots of people who believed themselves madly in love with someone on the Internet - and then they met. Again, Outcast nails it right on the head. The challenge of online relationships is that you only get to see that part of the person that they choose to allow you to see. We all do this to some degree, whether in virtual or real life. But online, it's much more difficult to get more than the briefest of glimpses at what the other person is like. So go slow. You're not in love with him yet, though it may feel like that. You're only infatuated with that little part of him that you have seen, which may or may not be indicative of the real person.
Author agnf666 Posted October 25, 2005 Author Posted October 25, 2005 Thank you guys... I do see what you are saying. I just want this to work out so I guess I will take it slow... there is no reason to rush to be with him because we are kindof far apart.
TnT Posted October 26, 2005 Posted October 26, 2005 Hey, Yeah i guess looking back on the situation he was different when i met him. When we had previously spoke on the net and over the phone, he did only tell me what he wanted me to hear, and what he wanted to share. But u know, everyone is diff.... alot of LRD'S do work... Just keep an open mind about the situation. I had a bad experience with my LRD, but im not going to sit here and tell u its not going to work cos everyone is different in this world. Good luck, and if u ever need to chat or ask anything, u can always PM me....
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