blondebiologist Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for 6 years. Sometimes we were living close and lately we have had about 100 miles between us. I have asked him how we are supposed to figure out if we will be good marriage material if we only see eachother two days a week. He doesn't want to move close to me because he doesn't like the area and it will be a lot more expensive. Both of us are applying to graduate school and it is possible that we may spend more time apart, but I do not want this. How long am I supposed to wait for him to sacrifice for me and live together/ get married?
Forever Searching Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 IMO I wouldn't wait anymore. After 6 years? Depending on your age, I'm guessing mid 20's? I'd say that you shouldn't need anymore time. Of course if you are both going to school than you might have to wait a little longer. It may not be fair to either of you to sacrafice your education for each other. That's a tough one..
slimjim Posted September 10, 2005 Posted September 10, 2005 "How long am I supposed to wait for him to sacrifice for me and live together/ get married?" why dont you make the sacrifice? maybe thats what he's waiting for--in 6 years and you say you need to live closer to see if this results in marriage material? graduate school is a tough road, and is a jealous mistress in that it requires most of your time. its a time to focus on the life path that you have chosen....maybe its better to get that under your belt. if this is your "soulmate" why does time make any difference, or a govt. piece of paper? marriage is not a guarantee of committment. if it was , there wouldnt be so much divorce. actions are the only sign of committment, and if you dont see these signs by now, then end it. But maybe he doesn t see them from you.
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