Niceguy11 Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Hi, I'm a 36-year-old single guy attending a 10-day workshop abroad - today being the first day. I mostly like guys. In my group there's this 45-year-old single guy who I think might gay (or bi) as well. He told me in passing that he dislikes marrying, and that he's not a relationship guy ( toward females), as well as him jokingly asking whether we could ask about each other's sexual orientation while introducing ourselves in pairs.. I have developed a crush on him, and would like to do it with him. Should I tell him I like males, and him as well? Thanks.
d0nnivain Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Announcements rarely go over well so try flirting with him first. Go grab a drink with him before you grab him. lol 2
Author Niceguy11 Posted September 18, 2018 Author Posted September 18, 2018 Announcements rarely go over well so try flirting with him first. Go grab a drink with him before you grab him. lol Well, I forgot to mention that we met in the lab by chance and asked me if I liked beer -- invitation? I was a bit caught off guard...I told him that beer was not my favorite, which is true. Should I tell him that it'd be a great idea to try the local beer together?
d0nnivain Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Yes! Go have that beer with him then order wine when you get there. If you get lucky you may get to drink the beer out of his belly button. 1
Author Niceguy11 Posted September 18, 2018 Author Posted September 18, 2018 Yes! Go have that beer with him then order wine when you get there. If you get lucky you may get to drink the beer out of his belly button. Thanks for the wise words (The problem is I'm a bit shy to hit on a guy in real life directly. On the internet, I find it easier, as it breaks the ice, before meeting face to face. )
preraph Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Yes! Go have that beer with him then order wine when you get there. If you get lucky you may get to drink the beer out of his belly button. D0nnivain, you are impetuous today. 2
preraph Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Hi, I'm a 36-year-old single guy attending a 10-day workshop abroad - today being the first day. I mostly like guys. In my group there's this 45-year-old single guy who I think might gay (or bi) as well. He told me in passing that he dislikes marrying, and that he's not a relationship guy ( toward females), as well as him jokingly asking whether we could ask about each other's sexual orientation while introducing ourselves in pairs.. I have developed a crush on him, and would like to do it with him. Should I tell him I like males, and him as well? Thanks. He sounds open to adventure at least. It sounds like you're both flirting. Next time you're around him, say "I need a drink." Then let him respond and if he doesn't, pick up the ball and ask if he wants to go with. Good luck.
Author Niceguy11 Posted September 18, 2018 Author Posted September 18, 2018 (edited) He sounds open to adventure at least. It sounds like you're both flirting. Next time you're around him, say "I need a drink." Then let him respond and if he doesn't, pick up the ball and ask if he wants to go with. Good luck. Thanks.. You mean I should at any case tell him that I like him? Edited September 18, 2018 by Niceguy11 Addition of text
d0nnivain Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Have the beer 1st & then see what happens. If nothing else it will build your confidence around in person flirtations. You need to get better at those. Some announcement that you like him is very middle school. Do not do that. 1
smackie9 Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 I agree it's better to just go hang out a few times to see where it's at.
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