My first love breakup

[JustHazel]

Long story short, my ex has Aspergers, we were on break for a month but he told people we were broken up anyway. I broke it off officially last week not being able to handle the emotional abuse, we ended it saying we could be friends but right now I need to block and delete him from everything, and he says to me “this isn’t forever, we will sort it out later” which confused me. I saw him constantly talking to a girl before too but it seemed friendly, i saw a psychic she said he would come back, but he’s being selfish and is too involved with impressing his friends, I’m 25, he’s 28 but he acts really immature.

 

A week passes, and I see him as I’m exiting the shopping mall, he’s with the girl. I immediately panic, I can’t avoid him because I’m already leaving, and he approaches me and says hello first, I say hello back, he introduces the girl to me but he doesn’t give me her name, he only gives her my name. Then I look at him like wth haha, and he says to me “she’s just a friend” and I’m like okay, then I go to leave and he says, “I found more of your stuff at my house” and I said “what stuff?” (I already dropped off most of his things and he gave me all of mine) and he said “I dunno just a couple of things, I’ll drop them off soon. I need to pick up my bike too” and I said “okay, sure can we do that soon?” And he said “yeah of course I’ll message you soon” and I left, and I just thought why did he feel the need to tell me she’s just a friend? He doesn’t owe me anything.

 

If he found most of my stuff already, why not just drop it off in a box or something at the front of my house? I don’t need to be there? I don’t know, how should I prepare myself, is he hoping to talk? I don’t know what to do. This is my first breakup and I want to try and handle it the best way possible to get the closure I need.

[Zahara]

So a guy treats you like crap and you claim he emotionally abused you, yet you're tip toeing around trying to figure out how to best manage your way around him?

 

Take his bike or have a friend take it and drop it infront of his house. Forget about your "stuff" since you didn't even realize it was gone. Then block him and move on. Grieve and heal and don't allow men that mistreat you to have access to you.

 

And why are you trying to analyze his actions? You want to get back with this clown? And you don't keep people as friends, especially those that you claim abused you.

 

Closure comes from within in that he has ended with you and you need to move on. That's your acceptance. You can't get any closure from him.

Edited September 18, 2018 by Zahara