grokcahsevol Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 I have been talking on and off with this girl. I asked her out for drinks once, but she wanted to go with her girlfriends, so I said no. After that, I ignored her until she hit me up. Her: Hey Me: Whats up? Her: Nothing my last week off before work starts Her:uuuuu Me: Have any plans set for your last week off? Her: Tuesday my work friends are coming and we are spending the day together. Me: Any of them female, single, and ready to mingle? Her: (explains every single female and how they're all taken, follow by a *) Me: You leave me no other choice, I guess you'll do Her: Haha (Note, her first language isn't english, so I have been doing my best to translate into english) Her: Why you want to mingle? Me: I can safely assume you're single, so we should mingle. Her: What do you mean by mingle? Me: Netflix and chill, hang out, have fun, and hook up Her: Oooooo Her: at this point I didn't know if those emojis were meaning something else Me: What is suppose to mean? Her: Mingle to me means different. Me: What does it mean to you? After I asked her this, it was around 11PM and she messaged me back the next evening Her: Have sex Her: So sorry it's been a very busy day eww What is my best course from here? I was thinking about saying something like "Fun fact, my initials spell sex" ( they really do) or Yeah, we can have sex/So now you just want to have sex and use me? or So we're both not confused, netflix and chill? or none of the above However, I wanted the input from you guys!
preraph Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 She's not interested in just having sex with you and that is the sum total of all you asked her to do. If you want to treat her with respect and take her on a real date, you better get to it soon and not try to have sex with her when you do.
Lotsgoingon Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 She's not interested. As soon as you mentioned that you wanted to "mingle" she knew enough English to get specific clarification on what you meant. If someone is into you, they won't necessarily need this level of clarification. The ambiguity will be exciting. I'm not sure why you are proposing to hook up anyway. You want to go out ... and let a hookup be the outcome if the energy is right between you and the other person. Right now this conversation goes like this: Her: Hi ... I'm off a week. You: Let's mingle and chill and hook up. Can you see the problem? Your reply is not connected in any way to her statement. You want to just ask her out for a drink ... So you wanna go for a drink? ... and then let her answer define your next move. If she shows no interest, chill.
basil67 Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 She is not interested in casual sex with you. What has she said or done to make you believe she'd be up for it?
jjb117 Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 (edited) I have been talking on and off with this girl. I asked her out for drinks once, but she wanted to go with her girlfriends, so I said no. After that, I ignored her until she hit me up. <SNIP> I really hope this is a joke. Honestly, it’s best to leave her alone. Also, when someone says oooooo , they mean ooooo bye. Like, cya later but no. Like it’s never gonna happen. Like stop messaging me. And it seems like you got that “hang out, have fun, and hook up” from Corey Wayne but you didn’t even do it right. If you’re gonna ask her out, call her. If not, have a direct plan. He’s all about being chivalrous, courting a girl, and you didn’t even give her plans other than “chilling.” Come on man. Edited September 18, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
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