watafakamidoinghere Posted September 16, 2018 Posted September 16, 2018 So there i go I feel like i am inlove with worst lady i could ever find It goes like that,we used to talk a lot like we know everything for each other(i met her online lol) So not quite long ago i met her in real life and spent some time together.But i don't know why she treats me like a trash most of the time Not a hello,rarely text me and stuff,but outta nowhere the next day she spams me for hours i would not say im friendzoned cause she never had any boyfriend never been to a night club??? at age of 18 ( im 22 ) I had 2 relationships my entire life,but i never been so attached to any girl in my lifie And this **** drives me crazy cuz u know at morning we are like soul mates rofl and at evening she treats me like im some piece of **** just passing by I already know i should probably back off cause this is exausting and probably a dead end,but i am not sure what should i do lol
Garcon1986 Posted September 16, 2018 Posted September 16, 2018 Why do you think you are soulmates? What do you define as her treating you like crap? Please specify. I sense that you are actually infatuated with this woman and not actually in measured controlled love with her, and react pretty emotionally to her actions.
smackie9 Posted September 16, 2018 Posted September 16, 2018 People who have anxiety are often misinterpreted as cold, rude, horrible people. So she could have anxiety and have those hot/cold moments. A real difficult type of person to date. Either that or she's lying about everything and is using OLD as a place to seek attention. If she makes you feel bad and crazy at the same time, cut her off because it's not going to change. 1
Author watafakamidoinghere Posted September 16, 2018 Author Posted September 16, 2018 Why do you think you are soulmates? What do you define as her treating you like crap? Please specify. I sense that you are actually infatuated with this woman and not actually in measured controlled love with her, and react pretty emotionally to her actions. Well you know we get along so damn nice she is very nice,polite and stuff sharing more private details and compliment me...wrote a damn novel on my birthday it was touching lol.Basicly tells me how important i am But then on the next day if i text her,her responses be like "hi" "no'' "yes' like i am being annoying and stuff.She acts as if i am not worthy for her attention.it's been like 3 times already that she told me she doesn't care about me lol then 3 hrs laters she be like im so sorry etc. and goes polite mode again.What dafuq is wrong with this lady ( she has a perfect life btw lol,rich and stuff no drama at all) and what is wrong with me for being so obsessed with this lady
Garcon1986 Posted September 16, 2018 Posted September 16, 2018 Your life with this lady is like a fiery explosion... interspersed with the memory of fingerprints on a faded lamppost which stopped shining long ago. Do you really want to keep this up? I would try to find out why she's doing this to you if you can... then head for the hills and find someone better. The very first time I thought about dating, 10 years ago, I had this exact same problem. So have many others on here. You don't want to endure this forever it's a pretty nasty way to go... just speaking from experience.
Syre17 Posted September 16, 2018 Posted September 16, 2018 I’d bet 10:1 she is bipolar and/or borderline personality disorder. Google borderline personality disorder and see how many of the symptoms apply to her. She sounds like she checks off just about every box. Then run... 1
Author watafakamidoinghere Posted September 16, 2018 Author Posted September 16, 2018 Your life with this lady is like a fiery explosion... interspersed with the memory of fingerprints on a faded lamppost which stopped shining long ago. Do you really want to keep this up? I would try to find out why she's doing this to you if you can... then head for the hills and find someone better. The very first time I thought about dating, 10 years ago, I had this exact same problem. So have many others on here. You don't want to endure this forever it's a pretty nasty way to go... just speaking from experience. Ugh damn man..Well i demanded for answers,but according to her she always been like that(from experience or its some wack coincidence,but she doesnt do it to strangers or people who will simply tell her to **** off,just to me rofl) Its something normal in her eyes,but **** no i don't want to keep that up,i just cant stop lol i am like a drug addict,i just need to talk to this lady,im submissive or something haha
Zahara Posted September 16, 2018 Posted September 16, 2018 Ugh damn man..Well i demanded for answers,but according to her she always been like that(from experience or its some wack coincidence,but she doesnt do it to strangers or people who will simply tell her to **** off,just to me rofl) Its something normal in her eyes,but **** no i don't want to keep that up,i just cant stop lol i am like a drug addict,i just need to talk to this lady,im submissive or something haha She doesn’t do it to people that stand up for themselves and have self-respect. You on the other are a doormat and she knows this so she likes to step all over you. You have no self-respect therefore she gets a kick out of treating you badly. It’s an ego boost to her. You lack self-esteem and self-respect. You’re desperate to feel validated and accepted. So the more she pushes you away the more you beg for her attention. It has nothing to do with love.
Larry56 Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 So there i go I feel like i am inlove with worst lady i could ever find It goes like that,we used to talk a lot like we know everything for each other(i met her online lol) So not quite long ago i met her in real life and spent some time together.But i don't know why she treats me like a trash most of the time Not a hello,rarely text me and stuff,but outta nowhere the next day she spams me for hours i would not say im friendzoned cause she never had any boyfriend never been to a night club??? at age of 18 ( im 22 ) I had 2 relationships my entire life,but i never been so attached to any girl in my lifie And this **** drives me crazy cuz u know at morning we are like soul mates rofl and at evening she treats me like im some piece of **** just passing by I already know i should probably back off cause this is exausting and probably a dead end,but i am not sure what should i do lol Okay. I'll tell you what's happening. Let me tell you whats up. All that stuff she's telling you about never having a bf and stuff like that. She's probably lying about that. Women who learn game playing early on have dealt with men. Just a fact The reality is. She doesn't like you...but she knows if she texts you you're going to compliment her and give her energy to get through her day. She doesn't care about you. It's not a mental illness, it's not anxiety, she doesn't like you in "that way". So that's why you get her showing up randomly and texting you and then dropping off the face of the earth once she gets your attention. When you want her attention...she's nowhere to be seen. However, I can guarantee you that she is talking to other guys and probably has some other relationship going on. Take it from Larry the playboy right here.
d0nnivain Posted September 17, 2018 Posted September 17, 2018 If you are repeatedly & routinely treated poorly in a relationship, the only option is to walk away. While everybody is occasionally moody or upset most people can still be kind to the people they care about. I honestly don't think you know enough about this girl to judge. More importantly I fear that you may be a different life stages which can make dating hard. At 18 she is either still in HS or at best a freshman at college. AT 22 you may be out in the world already. If you are a working adult & she's in HS, just give up because right now you don't have enough in common to stay together long term.
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