So this date

[Dis]

Again I don't actually care whether they feel deceived, because at the same time they are showing themselves up as superficial. In my opinion anyway.

 

 

Sure, its superficial, which is no worse than I am doing.

 

Soooo...they can't judge you based on your looks but you can judge them based on their looks?

 

8 pages later...still hopeless:rolleyes:

[ZA Dater]

This is very enlightening. When I was online dating, at least half the women I met looked nothing like their pictures and I knew at first glance I'd never see them again. Just like the women that meet you.

 

Why didn't I just get up and leave rather than stick it out for a half hour or so, I'll never know. But I've read countless stories about how much deception there is in the online dating world with endless questions by those who have been deceived, all to the effect of "why bother deceiving your potential dating partner, they're going to find out when they meet you?".

 

Now I understand. These people have given up on meeting anyone, they've been rejected so many times they figure 1 date is better than no dates.

 

It really IS that simple.

 

Pretty much yes. I have never judged on looks in the past, I always looked at balance of looks personality but the latter is even more impossible to find. Why can't I judge the same way.

[guest569]

It's so frustrating as you can't even be honest with yourself let alone us.. So there isn't much we can do to help matters.

 

I know you're a really sweet and handsome guy with a lot to offer but you're just not delivering and you could if you would just be honest with yourself and take some of the advice on board. Countless threads and decent advice in them. But you are in denial because it's easier for you.

[brigit87]

Again I don't actually care whether they feel deceived, because at the same time they are showing themselves up as superficial. In my opinion anyway.

 

 

Sure, its superficial, which is no worse than I am doing.

 

This thinking is so off base.

 

They're NOT being superficial. They are doing what nature dictates: looking for a mate they want to mate with, that's how procreation works.

 

You're willfully deceiving them because you just don't care how they feel as long as you get to sit at a table with a pretty girl.

 

I went on blind dates with angry men like you. Men who were pissed off that I wasn't attracted to them and they felt I should be.

 

Guess what? Too bad.

 

Either find a girl who thinks your attractive or pay for a pretty one. That's the most decent thing to do.