I found out why he broke up with me...is there hope still later?

[HURTANDCONFUSED81]

My sisters ex bf who is a mutual friend to my ex talked with him last nite. He told him that he was really really hurt...of all the things I ever did to him. For instance, his 21st bday he got drunk and was puking..and I was still at the club flirting with some guy..then recently I went back home and I met up with a guy I had a past with and tried to resolve that. Point is, I always had these emotional issues with past guy friends..and it hurt him alot. And said he had to move on for his own good. But before he left that nit ewhen we broke up...despite him saying he didnt love me anymore..I kept apologizng and begging for a second chance. I realize its a bit too late...but do u think given time that he can forgive me and give me a second chance? I told him I realized I had to stop doing this because the past is the past...and that I realize he was the one I wanted. But when my sister's ex told him that I still loved him and taht ID do anything to get a second chance..he said he believes in the goodness of people. But that I always say things...*sigh *I just want to know..is this hopeless forever?

[lost_in_chgo]

Point is, I always had these emotional issues with past guy friends..and it hurt him alot.

 

Not if you can demonstrate that you are capable of being faithful to him.

 

Is he just another past guy friend you are trying to resolve or is this something more?

 

I read this personal ad once that said, "I have many good male friends and you have to accept that.. It's called trust." That's a major red flag. She prioritizes her male friends above her husband's concerns about them. To me that says that being able to hang out with other men is more important to her than her relationship. How many married women do you know that hang out with male friends? How are their marriages doing?

 

So the point is, when you set your guy aside and go spend time with another guy, you are sending a pretty clear message. It sounds like you aren't ready to settle down with him and you've given him alot of reasons to doubt what you say. And that you have a history of going after the one that got away as soon as you get another one.

 

Stopping doing that and you might have a chance.