darkmoon Posted September 14, 2018 Posted September 14, 2018 (edited) My friend's tone of voice changed into one that I had never heard before. It was not a shout, but was emphatic. I had invited myself along to meet with her and a mutual friend. She had invited me before now and so I picked up the invite. And when she said no emphatically, and I asked here why not she would not give me a reason, just kept quiet. This to me is not how a friendship should be. We are both women in our 60s the friend is a guy in his 60s. I have known her twelve years, and got closer in the last two. We also both have a holiday booked for next spring, but now after the tone of voice etc., her power-display, I am getting cold feet. I visit her once a week, and now even that feels like a chore Any thoughts? Edited September 14, 2018 by darkmoon
shellybing Posted September 14, 2018 Posted September 14, 2018 Maybe she just wanted to go by herself. Sometimes we all want to get some time with another friend and sometimes we just need time away. I am sure it was nothing serious.
Happy Lemming Posted September 14, 2018 Posted September 14, 2018 Sometimes "get togethers" are meant to be small and intimate, and the old adage "The more, the merrier" doesn't hold true. If getting together with your friend seems like a chore, down grade the friendship to more of an e-mail / phone call friendship. I have one friend that lives kind of far away. It's a lot of effort to go to his home to visit him. We do e-mail quite a bit and I still consider him a close friend, even though we don't see each other in person all that often.
alphamale Posted September 14, 2018 Posted September 14, 2018 why are you visiting her once a week?? is she in hospital? 1
basil67 Posted September 14, 2018 Posted September 14, 2018 (edited) I think that it was poor manners to invite yourself along. If people want us at an activity, they will ask us to join them. A firm tone in response to poor manners is understandable. And she does not owe you a reason. Edited September 14, 2018 by basil67 clarification 1
preraph Posted September 14, 2018 Posted September 14, 2018 Terribly rude of you to invite yourself along. I don't care how close you are. You don't invite yourself. You should apologize. You're 60. You should know this by now.
Malin889 Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 Maybe she likes this gentleman and wants to see something happen between them.
amaysngrace Posted September 18, 2018 Posted September 18, 2018 That was very rude of her but also rude of you to invite yourself along or was this the very same outing she invited you to before? Either way she didn’t need to be harsh.
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