Author Malin889 Posted October 4, 2018 Author Posted October 4, 2018 At the end of the day, dating is all about intuition, not what or who someone objectively "is." Yes, sometimes intuition can get clogged or "mis-routed" due to old fears that have nothing to do with the situation at hand. But generally, intuition is an accurate and excellent tool to help us move toward people and situations that are good for us, and away from people and situations that might not be so good for us. If OP felt uncomfortable about this guy and their interaction, then that trumps any other consideration. Sure, most people on dating sites in the grand scheme of things are pretty much just like us, just trying to get by and find companionship, and they mean no harm. That doesn't mean we should consider that each one is datable. If someone makes you uncomfortable, even through no fault of their own (maybe they have a weird lisp that makes you cringe to hear, for instance), that's plenty of reason to block and delete. Yes, you hit the nail on the head, and that's what I was going to say. He made me feel uncomfortable, even if it was by accident, and well, that was it unfortunately. But hopefully he won't make the next girl uncomfortable. I'm sure he's doing just fine. :-)
whyamisounlucky Posted October 4, 2018 Posted October 4, 2018 Yes, you hit the nail on the head, and that's what I was going to say. He made me feel uncomfortable, even if it was by accident, and well, that was it unfortunately. But hopefully he won't make the next girl uncomfortable. I'm sure he's doing just fine. :-) I think he is just inexperienced. The exact same thing happened to me few years ago when I was using OLD. I asked the guy where he lived, expecting him to either say the city or any of the nearby suburbs. Instead, he gave me his FULL address. I admit, I stopped texting him and he texted me again saying that I probably didnt like him bc of his family background (if I recall correctly he had Middle Eastern background). I feel bad for deleting him because he was cute but at the end of the day I was looking for someone with better social skills and someone who is less awkward.
Logo Posted October 4, 2018 Posted October 4, 2018 I'm with Andy_K on this. So the guy asked how much she paid for the condo. Big deal. Maybe he thought he was making conversation. Frantic comments like, "Delete, Delete, Delete" are giving me an insight into the thought process of some of the women out there. Wow. That's all it takes to scare you away? Well, keep looking for that knight in shining armor then. I'm sure he'll come riding along on a white horse. Why not call him a perv, too, you know, for good measure?
depcharger Posted October 6, 2018 Posted October 6, 2018 Ok so I decided to give another dating app a go, and I started talking to this guy on the app, he seems intelligent, good conversation, is looking for the “same thing” I am (a relationship) yada yada...anyway we just started talking yesterday, and today he tells me the name of his son, that his wife cheated on him and that’s why he got divorced, and then asks me how much I bought my condo for (that’s no stranger’s business) then goes on to say “I used to own a house but sold it, now I live in an apt, and then he tells me his address. ??? Not just the town, but his exact address, apt number and everything. So I wrote back and said, you shouldn’t tell strangers your address.” Does anyone else find this odd or am I just looking for something to be amiss? Understandbly dude is bitter he lost his house and lives in an apartment. Just put yourself in his situation. Oversharing part? Well maybe he just doesn't know hot to talk to ladies online that well yet....I don 't think it is a huge deal Lots and lots of ladies ask dudes how much they make salary wise. I think that's worse is it a super nice apartment? maybe he was trying to show off?
Author Malin889 Posted October 10, 2018 Author Posted October 10, 2018 I'd definitely delete any guy who asked how much I paid for a condo/house/car/etc. Most men on dating sites won't make the cut for most women. It's a search for a needle in a haystack. Needle in a haystack - That's an understatement!
Author Malin889 Posted October 10, 2018 Author Posted October 10, 2018 Lots and lots of ladies ask dudes how much they make salary wise. They do? I've never ever done that.
dispatch3d Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 I would not be cool with that - asking for my salary, current living situation (whether I own a house, the size of the house, area, etc. etc.). It's just not my thing. I may share some of what I just said - although I would never share salary.
mortensorchid Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 He gave you his address because he wants you to come over RIGHT NOW, which you don't want to do. Block and move on.
alphamale Posted October 10, 2018 Posted October 10, 2018 They do? I've never ever done that. most of the time a woman can estimate how much a man makes by what car he drives and which zip code he lives in.
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