eugene1 Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 I downloaded a dating app and saw someone from Primary - High School and I was shocked, so I had to contact her again I have done and she's been so nice. We were close in Primary we messed about and ran after each other in the playground, just fun really as it's the sort of things we all did back then. I was silly and stupid in High School like everyone is tbh so basically most people from school aren't nice and are nasty to me because of what I did or wouldn't want to talk to me because it's been about 5 years since I left High School, but she's not and I want to treat her to a night out. She's still friends with someone who was in my class so we could go out with her so she's not on her own. I think it'll be better that way, who knows? Is it too early to be talking about meeting her? We've talked for the past 2 days and get on pretty well, I get the feeling she wouldn't mind especially when she will be with her mate too who knows me. I will be making all the effort like getting there which only takes an hour where she lives and I'll pay for everything (and I don't mind, it has to be the lads who make the effort right?) I want her to feel wanted and grateful and hopefully... :love:
ExpatInItaly Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 Asking her for a date would be nice, but don't invite the friend. She is a big girl and shouldn't need a friend in tow to act as a buffer. If she insists on bringing a friend, I would not consider it a date as that is a pretty significant signal that she doesn't have a romantic interest in you.
d0nnivain Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 Especially because you already know each other the 1st conversation could have included a request for a meet. The fact that you waited 2 days already seems awfully slow to me.
PRW Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 Is it too early to be talking about meeting her?Too early!?!?! Probably too late. That should have been done in the first conversation. Not doing that makes you seem weak and low-confidence,...and those are the kind of things that make a woman afraid. There was a story in a movie told by a teenage girl. Yeah the movie was fiction, but what she said is true. She said when she went out on the street and if there a group of men/boys that seemed a bit shady she would boldly go up to the one that seemed like the leader, the Alpha, and would "give him sh**". She said those guys either have a little sister or want one, and would be protective of her. The real truth that she finally said was that it isn't the strong men who hurt you,...it is the weak ones.
smackie9 Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 You are an adult, just ask her if she would like to go out for sushi....something casual. Don't throw in all the "I will pay for everything" crap...you sound desperate that way....when the bill comes, then you can say you will cover it. 1
Author eugene1 Posted September 13, 2018 Author Posted September 13, 2018 Asking her for a date would be nice, but don't invite the friend. She is a big girl and shouldn't need a friend in tow to act as a buffer. If she insists on bringing a friend, I would not consider it a date as that is a pretty significant signal that she doesn't have a romantic interest in you. Why not? I'm not a good talker and it would make conversation. Obviously not a date if her friend comes along, but so what? We could still do something... Especially because you already know each other the 1st conversation could have included a request for a meet. The fact that you waited 2 days already seems awfully slow to me. We went to school together, we barely saw each other but atleast we have some background. Why would I ask her for a date in the 1st conversation, I would be mad to do that! Bare in mind we didn't speak in years
Author eugene1 Posted September 13, 2018 Author Posted September 13, 2018 She only joined the dating app a few weeks ago she said so she must want someone to date, maybe it's written in the stars I get so nervous with these sort of things, it feels wrong to ask her right now but theirs nothing to talk about that's the problem and I don't like asking too many questions.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 13, 2018 Posted September 13, 2018 Why not? I'm not a good talker and it would make conversation. Obviously not a date if her friend comes along, but so what? We could still do something... We went to school together, we barely saw each other but atleast we have some background. Why would I ask her for a date in the 1st conversation, I would be mad to do that! Bare in mind we didn't speak in years Well, do you want a date or do you just want to be friends? If you want a date, you don't invite third wheels. Asking her friend along is awkward and something one might do in middle school. Not as an adult. 1
d0nnivain Posted September 13, 2018 Posted September 13, 2018 We went to school together, we barely saw each other but atleast we have some background. Why would I ask her for a date in the 1st conversation, I would be mad to do that! Bare in mind we didn't speak in years I didn't say you should ask for a DATE. I said you should ask for a MEET. Hey, let's go grab a drink & talk about old times. I'd love to know what you've been up to. You take a bit of time before meeting strangers off the internet to assure people that they will be safe in public with you & that you will have something to talk about. You two know each other. She knows you are not an axe murderer. If all else fails, you can reminisce. Confident men get together with women they are interested in quickly. Weak, insecure men beat around the bush & dither about what to do next. There are tons of things to talk about: Hurricane Florence, what she's been doing since school, your local sports team etc. You have to get over this dislike of asking Qs. You ask Qs to get to know somebody. You can't sit there like a bump on a log. 1
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