MJGUK Posted September 11, 2018 Posted September 11, 2018 Just over a month ago I asked this girl out, after getting to know her over the summer. Although she said she was interested, she did however reject me because she was going to Uni and was uncertain on whether she wanted to start a relationship, which is understandable. So, I went back to Uni last week to start my third and final year and I’m now wondering whether to ask her again to see if she might be open to it. The reason I want to try again is because our Uni’s are quite close together, so distance shouldn’t really be a problem and as I really like her I don’t want to regret not taking the chance. Is it worth another shot or should I just forget about it?
basil67 Posted September 11, 2018 Posted September 11, 2018 If I understand correctly, proximity wasn't the issue for her. Her rejection was because she didn't know if she wanted to start a relationship at all. She's probably happy being footloose and fancy free and able to snog whichever guy takes her fancy at the time.
ExtraSpice Posted September 11, 2018 Posted September 11, 2018 Yeah seems like distance is not the limiting factor here, it’s that she isn’t sure that she wants a relationship. So I don’t think that would have changed in the course of a month or two. If it’s really bugging you then you can go ahead and ask though I would keep my expectations in check as from your description it seems like the answer will be a no. I mean at worse you are back to where you started and at best there is a yes. Though if I had already told someone no I wouldn’t like them to come back after a month and ask again.
basil67 Posted September 11, 2018 Posted September 11, 2018 I should also add that when someone says they don't want a relationship, you need to add the unspoken words "with you" to what they are saying. 2
todreaminblue Posted September 11, 2018 Posted September 11, 2018 I would suggest you live life without regrets ...so reconnect build a friendship...start talking to her then ask her out again see how you go.....good luck...deb
d0nnivain Posted September 12, 2018 Posted September 12, 2018 LDRs are hard under the best of circumstances. When you are at different schools they are almost impossible. When you see her again at a break go on a date but don't pursue anything serious right now.
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