Chassit Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 Been just over 5 weeks since my common law wife of five years moved out and in with another guy. I have mostly been maintaining NC. There were three weeks of her moving where we kept logistical contact and about a week after that I lost it and texted her a few times including a single pleading text. We have had no contact whatsoever in 13 days. our last contact was concerning a bill that arrived for her. Additionally, the cat stayed with me under the stipulation she would get to visit occasionally. I am devastated still. I am so hurt and betrayed. How could she do this to me after 5 years? I am floating between wanting her back so badly I can taste it and hating her guts. I have come really close to letting her know how much I hate her, but I have not. How to I go forward from here? How do I even decide if I should write her lying, cheating *** off or work towards forgiveness and possible reconciliation? We were so deeply in love at one point but there were issues as well. I just don't know what to do.
Happy Lemming Posted September 10, 2018 Posted September 10, 2018 She is gone. Its done. All you can do is heal. No contact is the best way to heal. As far as the cat, she doesn't need to visit the cat. Put your foot down on that one, no feline visitation. One day at a time...
Gretchen12 Posted September 11, 2018 Posted September 11, 2018 There will probably be no reconciliation. That's because it doesn't seem like she left you on impulse. There were problems already, and probably failed attempts to fix things. Also she's with another guy so there's no loneliness driving her back to you. I think it's done. As for you, if you're struggling a lot you can maybe try talking it out with a therapist. Some people have said it helped.
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