Author shellybing Posted September 17, 2018 Author Posted September 17, 2018 Totally agree with this. I’m a guy and had a situation not quite the same but I’ll share since I think it’s relevant to your post and question. Matched with a woman, exchanged numbers, lots of rapport, good engagement and a first date was set. Things continue to go very well the next few days leading up to aforementioned date. Evening prior, I get a txt, tells me “the man of her dreams has reentered her life” and says she can’t meet me after all. She apologizes and I say no problem and wished her well. About a week later I hear from her out of the blue, says she made a huge mistake, really enjoyed our online/txt chemistry and wants a chance to meet me...yada yada. I politely declined. Short of anyone being on their death bed, I have issues with people breaking first dates. To me, it’s like a job interview (sort of). I get that there may be a legitimate reason on occasion but it sets a bad precedent and an imbalance right out of the gate IMO. For example, so I forgive you for breaking the first (and most important date since it is the first one)...what happens down the road, the second or third time a committmemt of this or any other sort isn’t kept? I wouldn’t reward this type of behavior with a second chance personally. I will say that I am amazed in this day and age with cell phones and what not how incredibly flakey people can be. I don’t buy his excuse. There’s a saying I believe and always think about...”what we permit, we promote.” What i liked about his response was this. . . So after I gave him an earful and told him to **** off and thanks for wasting my time and money, was his response to my anger. Obviously it was a waste of money so I am going to be angry, after having paid a sitter and such. He continued with the excuse about his service and job site, being unavailable. But even though I was angry he was willing to hear me out and heard what I was saying. He acknowledged his wrong and that he ****ed up, and that even though it was a 'misunderstanding' I was right to be mad. I unblocked his number from my phone and his old messages came through immediately. The last message was "I'm so sorry, I thought we were supposed to touch base at 5 and I've been out all day on the job site so I didn't get your messages." He has been quite nice and respectful otherwise chatting and I really believe him. . . so there's that. What do you think? Your date is a pretty ****ed up thing to do to someone. OMG it's horrible to tell someone that and then just come back a week later. I would not be going out or giving that one another chance either.
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