blueman Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 my girlfriend of 3 months called me tonight on her break crying hysterically saying that she had a miscarriage at work:eek: . i tried to console her as best i could but she had to get back to work. I have never gone through this before and i want to know from the ladies here what i should do to make this time as easy as might be possible for her. I love this girl alot and i feel horrible for her but now im worried that she might do something rash like decid eto not be with me or worse do something to herself. I am just confused on what angle to approach this at so any help would be greatly appreciated:( thanks
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 Hopefully she went to see a doctor! If she didn't, get her to someone to get checked out. Even if it was very, very early - she will still need to be checked out to be on the safe side. Her physician will be able to suggest some things/people to talk to in order to help her out with coping with this.
Trimmer Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 I agree with LucreziaBorgia - make sure she gets herself to a Dr. to get any physical needs taken care of. I can't help but ask: if you've only been with her for 3 months, did you know she was pregnant, and was it yours? I don't intend to be indelicate, but this may have some bearing on how you proceed within the context of this very new relationship...
Author blueman Posted September 7, 2005 Author Posted September 7, 2005 i had no clue she was pregnant but we did have unprotected sex once about a week before we officially became a couple and that was roughly 3.5 months ago. also i am the first guy she has slept with in about well 6 months prior to us first having sex. so its impossible unless i was lied to
sanne Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 i had no clue she was pregnant but we did have unprotected sex once about a week before we officially became a couple and that was roughly 3.5 months ago. also i am the first guy she has slept with in about well 6 months prior to us first having sex. so its impossible unless i was lied to oh boy, this sounds like it could be a disaster. i'm hoping things turn out for the best for you.
Trimmer Posted September 8, 2005 Posted September 8, 2005 So again - trying not to be indelicate here, but please confirm my logic... You had unprotected sex only once, and that was 3.5 months ago. So unless she's been with someone else, or unless your protection failed at a later date, she knew about this for as much as 2-2.5 months and did not mention it to you at any time until she miscarried? I think you're a very generous guy, and I'll state outright that I think you're doing the right thing to make sure her physical and immediate emotional states are looked after. (And she should get to a doctor - that's your first job if it hasn't happened yet...) But looking at your situation with some detachment, I have to be blunt and ask the obvious questions: how long had she known about this (nearly a trimester??) When was she going to tell you? Was she seeing a doctor for prenatal care? Once the immediate situation is stabilized, you may want to take a careful look at issues of communication, trust and responsibility between the two of you...
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