patooks Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 (edited) Hey all. A new girl started working at my company a few days ago, her and I work together alone soon to be 2 days a week. We hit it off really well, that in the 1st day working together I had her added to my FB, got her number and knew tons about her. Wer'e both single, and similar in age and tons of common interests. My mate came into work saying he was competing in a racing event, I for some reason asked her if she wanted to go this weekend to watch and she said yes. After work she texted me saying she got home safe, and she had fun working with me. For some reason I asked her out to a movie and she said it sounded like a good idea. I'm seeing her on Saturday for work, I'm in 2 minds though, I'm technically her boss, but I like this chick, there's something about her, her wicked personality, she's gorgeous as well. Does anyone have any advice, if she wasn't keen surely she would of said no, but her words say other wise. But the working together and my role in the company as a manager are playing on my mind. Cheers. Edited September 3, 2018 by patooks
d0nnivain Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 Your role as her manager, should play on your mind. If you go down this dating road & things don't work out, she may cry sexual harassment to get back at you. Since you already asked do allow her to come to the race with you but suggest she bring some GFs. Do not be romantic. Just hang out as work colleagues. Find a reason to cancel going to the movies.
Art_Critic Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 With her comment about liking working with you it tells me she doesn't see you romantically and is going to the items you suggest as she is getting to know you. You have mentioned her looks, that tells me you see her romantically... I would suggest you either define the relationship with her or stop at this point, with you being her boss there is a strong pull to say you should not see her at all, I learned many years ago to never mix work and friendship with people I work with, there are NO coworkers/employees I work with on my Facebook friends list.. that IMO is a big mistake to add friends from work into your personal life...
Malin889 Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 She's not going to say no to these social events because you're her boss, she probably feels like she can't say no. As the boss, it's up to you to steer this in the right direction. If you're going to hang out with her outside work, make sure it's just as friends. Also if she wasn't "gorgeous" as you said, would you be interested in her? Just something to think about. 1
preraph Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 Her referencing enjoying working with you after you asked her out was her way of saying she considers this just work. you're her boss so she doesn't feel she can say no and especially since she's brand new and has no idea if this is the norm or not. You're going to get yourself in a bind here. She should have known the movie was not a work thing, but that said my boss takes the whole office to a movie once in awhile. She may be expecting others to be there. I think you need to back out of this deal. If she's not new to town, ask her if she'd like to bring a friend with her to the racing thing and cancel the movie. 1
Author patooks Posted September 3, 2018 Author Posted September 3, 2018 I think I wont mention either to her on Saturday and see what happens. I wish I never said anything, I have no clue if she's keen on me or not, now it makes me feel uncomfortable working with her. I feel like either situation I'll feel bad about, if she isn't keen as me and I have to work with her I look like a tool, or she is keen and something happens it could affect work .
shellybing Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 I would advise you to not get involved with her unless it is work related events any further. Even what you have done now can be skewed. If it was innocent and you have invited her as a friend, great. But she could also feel obligated to do these things only because you are her boss. Keep your colleagues and your fellow employees as work friends. There is too much going on with harassment in the workplace. If you like her, after you have known her and her demeanor and behavior at work for a while, maybe something could happen. But I would give it a whole lot of time before jumping into anything romantically.
kendahke Posted September 3, 2018 Posted September 3, 2018 Don't poop where you eat... especially when you're a manager. This can go all sorts of wrong, really fast.
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