Candis01 Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Every since I was a little girl, I have dreamed of a "perfect" wedding. From my dress to the flowers. I wanted everything to be perfect. I wanted to get engaged and invite all of our friends and family to the wedding, so they could share our special day. Well all that changed. When my boyfriend said he wants to get married in a court house, since I'm not of age yet. I love him and I know I will marry him in the long run, but I don't know if I want to give up my special day, that I have always imagined. My mom has agreed to sign for me next year. He wants to save money, so we can start our life together early. He said we could save the money after we get settled and have a wedding like I want. I'm not sure what to do. In away I want to be selfish and go with the big wedding, and not get married to another 3 years (so we'll have the money), and another part I just want to marry him, because our love is going to be the same either way. I know if I do agree to the courthouse wedding, we wont have time or money to think about remarring, because we will already be married, and why waste that money when your already married. To me if we got married at the courthouse it wouldn't feel like we got married, just because I'm used to the big ceremony. I don't know, either way I will still love him just as much as I do now. I just want my wedding day to be perfect. Am I selfish to want that?
bluechocolate Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 ...and not get married to another 3 years..... That's a good idea.
Skeered Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Totally 100% not selfish and he loves you he will understand the importance...if you wait your love will stay the same as if you do it in a courthouse too.. I had the courthouse marriage and was promised the same thing in a year we'll have the BIG ceremony...it never happened then I was plannin on the 10 year anniversary doing something in Vegas...that never happened either...now that he is my XH...my next marriage will be nothing less than everything I expect..just because it will be the last time...I wanted something and settled and that event is too big to settle for less in my opinion...your only supposed to do it once anyway...lol I just picked the wrong guy the first time...apparently you aren't supposed to settle on the guy either...who knew..LMAO;)
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