Ended up hanging out with a girl after having asked her out and she basically said no

[ikonik]

She likes your attention but not enough to go out on a date with you.

 

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Could be, but I didn't mention the fact that she said to 'try and not work around her' because she's running for office. Which I believe to be true and she isn't blowing me off because I work in that field.

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[d0nnivain]

Of course it's flirting. What do you need her to do, hit you in the head with a 2x4?

 

Ask her on a date already before she concludes that you have rejected her through your non action.

[ikonik]

I did before, and she pretty much said no. I'm waiting until her schedule clears up to ask her again.

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[ikonik]

I made a thread about her before so I'll spare the details. But, in short, I met this girl for networking reasons, one time when she was waiting for her flight, she called me and at the end of the call asked what my plans were for the primary election night (we're both super involved in politics). Fast forward a few months I asked her girl out for a coffee date and she basically said no. Fast forward a few weeks, she announces she's running for office. In one of her emails, she told me 'try not to work around me, it's going to be impossible to get me off the phone the next few weeks.' I believe her because I work in this field so I know what the work schedule is like. Now I'm thinking she didn't initially blow me off because she wasn't interested, but she knew she wouldn't have time to date because she knew her future plans. Thoughts? Should I ask her out again when her schedule clears up which should be soon?

[smackie9]

If she was interested, she would have told you she would have to get back to you when she has time freed up...she just told you no.

Remember she still has to eat, and still has to go home and relax/sleep....no such thing as too busy if you really like someone.

[d0nnivain]

I did before, and she pretty much said no. I'm waiting until her schedule clears up to ask her again.

 

If she already said no once, she's not interested in dating you. She enjoys NSA flirting but wants nothing deeper.

 

Leave her be.

[preraph]

I think if you watch her, she probably does all that cutsie stuff with other people as well. If she's said no, that's it, no.

[ikonik]

If she was interested, she would have told you she would have to get back to you when she has time freed up...she just told you no.

Remember she still has to eat, and still has to go home and relax/sleep....no such thing as too busy if you really like someone.

 

You could be right, but you are always tired running for office.

[alphamale]

Do I read into it?

 

not unless she was naked at the time

[emeraldgreen]

Teasing to keep you in orbit.

[smackie9]

You could be right, but you are always tired running for office.

If that's the case she will never have time.

[preraph]

She told you no. AND she asked you not to work around her. That's two things trying to get you to back off.

[Juha]

Time to put this girl on ignore from your life...

 

Delete her totally and move on. She is not worth one minute more of your time.

 

I have had this situation and have nothing to do with them as they are using you to make themselves feel good for whatever reason.

[alphamale]

Time to put this girl on ignore from your life...

 

Delete her totally and move on. She is not worth one minute more of your time.

 

I have had this situation and have nothing to do with them as they are using you to make themselves feel good for whatever reason.

 

I agree with this ^^^

[ExpatInItaly]

You started this thread in August. She wasn't really into it then.

 

It's now January and she still hasn't expressed interest.

 

Time to let it go, OP. Even a very busy woman will make it known she is into you, if she really is.