jhurtinct Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 My bf just told me he wants to go to counseling again, we've tried before and it did nothing, we're trying to slavage whats left of our feelings. Just wondering does it ever really work and because of ins and time troubles with day and early evenings appt scheduling does anyone have an alternative to counsling that has worked? thanks:confused:
Art_Critic Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 You have to have a decent realtionship of trust with your therapist as well as you really must try to improve things. A therapist doesn't fix things for you, They help YOU fix things for yourself. So you have to listen with an open mind and have to really want to improve things that you guys discuss in your sessions. You also have to be honest and open up and tell the truth about issues if it is going to work If you don't listen to the therapist ( both of you ) it will fail
Author jhurtinct Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 thank you for your response, I am still wondering though if anyone has any good techniques to do on your own to try and compermise and come to an agreement on difference in relationships, other than counsling because of time and ins reasons? thank again
HokeyReligions Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 There is a website (I can't mention it or link it because it's a commercial site - but search for "marriage" and "builders") that has some decent information and some workbook type material that you and your partner fill out and share with each other. My husband and I did this - we took our time during the week to complete our forms and then scheduled our own 'session' at home. No TV or interruptions and we would discuss each line on the forms. We gave ourselves one hour to discuss these things and really listen to each other. Sometimes we spent the whole hour on one question and sometimes we breezed through half a dozen. It did help us by keeping us focused on specifics and by listening to each other and repeating back in our own words. We took this practice and questions from the website and molded it to fit us and when we feel a strain in our marriage we will schedule a time to discuss it (I think we are going to have another family communication update soon!) You might try something like this. It helps us to help ourselves.
Author jhurtinct Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 hokey religions thank you I am going to do the search unless you can private mess me with the website( i don't know) but thank you thats exactly what i'm looking for. thanks again:bunny:
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