Bcbentertainment Posted August 31, 2018 Posted August 31, 2018 (edited) How many coincidences can two people have? I matched with the same guy on tinder and bumble in nyc like a day apart. There was something that seemed familiar about him. No conversation at all. Let’s meet, ok. Sends me his number. We both have the last same digits but in a different order. Not 1 or two numbers but 5. I was immediately attracted to the guy in person and that made for a terrible date on my part bc then I became awkward and nervous. I was drawn to him like a dang magnet. I drank to fast to calm said nerves who knows what I even said. Pretty sure he’s probably a player and just wanted sex. Which sucks bc I wanted to see him again not just for sex. He says hey if I message him but doesn’t really act like he wants to see me again. Which I’d normally say ok bye Felicia except these weird coincidences. He kept showing up under people you may know on fb(creepy) so I added him. I was supposed to do this charity run in Nashville a few months later. He was there the day I was suppose to go. I post on fb about wanting to see Fenway Park and he’s at Fenway Park and posts photos a few min after I posted about it. He and his siblings same names as 3 of my cousins. There’s been a few more I can’t think of at the moment. Oh when we met turns out we both do anesthesia for work. I don’t think omg I’m supposed to be with him or anything but just funny weird coincidences. I’ve never experienced anything like that before. Edited August 31, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
preraph Posted August 31, 2018 Posted August 31, 2018 Well, that's why you're matching, stuff like you both being in healthcare, etc. If he doesn't seem interested, then it can't be kismet. Only thing I can think of you could do is have a kind of medium sized party and just on the pretext of needing bodies, invite him and see if anything positive happens, but chances are you'll spend the night watching him hit on your other friends:sick:
Author Bcbentertainment Posted August 31, 2018 Author Posted August 31, 2018 Which would sound great except we live like 10 hrs apart. I was just visiting when we met.
d0nnivain Posted August 31, 2018 Posted August 31, 2018 The coincidences are meaningless. Stop trying to think they matter. Tinder & Bumble use the same algorithms so if you two put up similar profiles on both sites off course the math will match you on both sites. I think the owner of Bumble used to work for Tinder & wrote the source code. That is not a coincidence; it's math. If you drank too much on your meet the guy probably thinks you are lush & that is why he's avoiding you. He may think you are stalking him. Try reaching out & confessing to making a bad impression then asking for a 2nd sober date that you initiate & pay for. If you don't get a yes to that invite, give up. He's not interested. 1
d0nnivain Posted August 31, 2018 Posted August 31, 2018 Then why do you want an LDR anyway. Tinder & Bumble matched you because your phones were in proximity at the time of the match.
Author Bcbentertainment Posted August 31, 2018 Author Posted August 31, 2018 Maybe bumble was. I wasn’t in ny at the time with the tinder one. I don’t know it’s rare hat I meet a guy I’m even attracted to and feel that deep connection with. I know what I want in a guy. On the surface he met those. Physical characteristics lots of common interests. So long distance isn’t an issue for me. If I met someone I thought was worth the risk distance doesn’t matter. Long distance is a 2.5 hr plane ride in that case. People are lazy now and don’t want to put in any effort if the person lives more than 30 min away. It just sucks when you meet people you like and they don’t like you back when you have things in common. But also if you only want sex on those apps then you need to be communicative about that and not some bull**** when can I see you and then flake.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 31, 2018 Posted August 31, 2018 There is a big difference between a 30-minute drive and a 2.5 plane ride, OP. It's not about being lazy; it's about being practical and realistic. Most people are not going to be interested in investing in someone who lives that far away. You need to have more realistic expectations. I agree with the others - you have some common interests, but it doesn't mean you're meant to be. If that were true, he'd be reciprocating. At this point, you're connecting dots which just aren't there.. It's disappointing, but it would be far better if you date locally. 1
Author Bcbentertainment Posted August 31, 2018 Author Posted August 31, 2018 So if you met someone amazing and they lived far away you wouldn’t even try? Oh I’ve looked high and low locally and there are no guys I’m even remotely attracted to it’s all gym selfies and fishing photos. I guess I’m blessed with a profession where I can work anywhere and have nothing tying me down so if I met someone that was worth it I’d be willing to move but people don’t even want to see if we’d be a good match if I live far away. Lose lose situation lol
ExpatInItaly Posted August 31, 2018 Posted August 31, 2018 So if you met someone amazing and they lived far away you wouldn’t even try? Oh I’ve looked high and low locally and there are no guys I’m even remotely attracted to it’s all gym selfies and fishing photos. I guess I’m blessed with a profession where I can work anywhere and have nothing tying me down so if I met someone that was worth it I’d be willing to move but people don’t even want to see if we’d be a good match if I live far away. Lose lose situation lol Nope, because I wouldn't do long-distance with someone I hadn't already dated in person for a while. I don't make emotional investments like that without knowing someone well first.
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