SmallWonder Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 I am 'talking' with this guy. I am the type of girl who was raised to always be busy - meaning, I can't just sit around and be idle. This has made me into the type of adult who likes to make things happen for myself rather than wait for them to come to me. Right? Okay. So. I am wondering: This guy was calling regulary about one to three times a week. I mentioned to him that I wasn't comfortable calling him (because I know he definately wants to chat if he calls me, right?). But he said, "No, I WANT you to call me." So...I know he said this, but lately he hasn't been calling me as much. Maybe once a week, if that. Do I call him when I feel like it? Or do I let him fall off my radar?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Call him when you feel like it. If he blows you off, or you get a cold reception, or he seems distant the first few times you call, then you may want to consider letting him drop off the radar.
chichi Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 call him there is nohing wrong with you calling him...now if he doesnt answer or return any phone calls then obviously you are bothering him....just be sure not to call him all the time, then that way he knows you have a life other than him. if you always let him call you then he might get tired of chasing you so be careful if you really like him!!
tanbark813 Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 If he said he wants you to call, and you haven't, then he's going to take it as rejection. Call him if you want to see him, don't if you don't. It's not rocket science.
Author SmallWonder Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 The weird thing is, I called him once after I didn't hear from him for like, a week (I was DYING to hear his voice) and he sounded so excited to hear from me I was thinking, "Why the hell don't you call ME?" He kept asking me questions and I kept trying to keep the encounter breif so he didn't like, think I was too chatty and I am trying to - not play hard to get - but so I didn't seem TOO eager.....
Outcast Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Life works much better when you treat people of the opposite gender as humans rather than as strange creatures who behave differently. Everybody wants to be accepted and wanted, even men. So you calling him showed that you're taking part in the relationship because you're interested in him, too. Read Tanbark's advice and take it. It's prehistoric to expect the man to do all the work while you languish on your chaise longue eating chocolates and not lifting a finger to be an active part of your own relationship.
Author SmallWonder Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 How ironic that as I read this I am eating chocolate. However, I have to point out that when I'm home lounging (looking adorable, as usual) I have my face in a bag of Cheetos. Okay, I put them in a small bowl, but still..... Outcast - how articulate you are today.
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