oneinamillion93 Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 He and I started talking and laughing with each other a lot. He likes to tease me and all. Once he asked me to go get coffee (in the canteen with him) or go do some chores with him etc, sometimes asking me to take breaks together, commenting on my social media. Long story short we discussed about some kind of coffee and somehow I ended up having to get him there to try it. He mentioned about getting that coffee every now and then. Few days ago he went to my desk tell me something along the line “take me to that coffee”, the day after I went to him asking if he wanted to get that coffee and he paused for few seconds and I got so embarrassed that I left. It’s been awkward since then. At first he won’t look at me in the eyes. He will avoid eyes contact with me. It’s getting better now that we say hello and goodbye again. I don’t know why he didn’t say anything about that coffee but still joking around and teasing. If he has a gf or he’s interested I don’t think he would asking about the coffee that many times. Is he interested or I am overthinking? He’s being friendly? I’m so confused.
preraph Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 Yeah. I don't know. I don't think he really wants to. I think he just likes knowing someone wants him and tested that out, but then he chickened out. I don't see it with this guy.
dranoel Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 He might like the flirting and knowing that someone wants to date him, but doesn't actually want to follow through on anything. It's fun to flirt and tease and joke, but following through on flirtation is another thing entirely. Maybe he's not all that interested to take the actual next step from flirting.
MountainGirl111 Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Sounds like he's unsure of what to do. Sometimes a girl has to take matter in her own hands. Take him out for coffee, relax, be yourself. He obviously wants to have coffee with you. You can keep wondering about it, or do something about it. Maybe surprise him and treat him to coffee...No reason you can't treat him to coffer. Go for it, girl. I would probably say something like, "C'mon, let's go get some coffee."
umarmalkh Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 He takes you as a friend but if you started falling for him then this a different story may be he is not ready for you at all just keep him as you said to be in a friendship manner until he confront you by him self but otherwise you will get embarrassed if you ask him when his not ready for you.
losangelena Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Sounds like he's unsure of what to do. Sometimes a girl has to take matter in her own hands. Take him out for coffee, relax, be yourself. He obviously wants to have coffee with you. You can keep wondering about it, or do something about it. Maybe surprise him and treat him to coffee...No reason you can't treat him to coffer. Go for it, girl. I would probably say something like, "C'mon, let's go get some coffee." Re-read her story. She DID ask him, but he just sat there in response and then things got awkward. 1
LordVader Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 One time at a bar I was talking to a girl who I had sort of talked to a couple of times, and sort of flirted with. Well she told me she was there with her brother, as in letting me know that other guy was not her BF I guess. Well around that time I stopped going to bars anyways, but if I had of seen her again, I would have stopped flirting, because I would not want to lead her on. And I'd be too scared I think to make an actual move, when the girl is interested back. There was not near enough trust for me to feel comfortable, maybe the guy's the same. Maybe he just want to get to know u better without "dating" ?? This thread is super old
Author oneinamillion93 Posted August 30, 2018 Author Posted August 30, 2018 Re-read her story. She DID ask him, but he just sat there in response and then things got awkward. Actually I didn’t wait for him to answer me. I asked him and as he were working he freeze for a fee second and I’m so embarrassed I left. But he didn’t even tlak about it later on so guessed he was hesitated for real
Radarsat Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Actually I didn’t wait for him to answer me. I asked him and as he were working he freeze for a fee second and I’m so embarrassed I left. But he didn’t even tlak about it later on so guessed he was hesitated for real Honestly, he seemed like he was really interested prior. Not sure exactly how your conversation went with him when you asked, but maybe he was thinking of his availability or where you guys should go? Assumptions, but I wouldn't say he was not interested by any means. You need to give people time to react. Maybe he was surprised you finally came around to wanting to go? Maybe try this: See if you can find out somehow when he is free and text him or call him and say, "hey I'm just headed over to this cafe and was wondering if you wanted to join me?" Just a thought. Or be direct. I'd like to meet you for a coffee so we can get to know one another. When is a good time for you? Just do it! Don't live with regrets.
PRW Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Is he interested or I am overthinking? He’s being friendly? I’m so confused. Yes, you are overthinking Yes, he is being friendly You are definitely confused Problem solved You will continue to get this crap from guys who don't have the guts to directly ask you out. For the future, it the guy is vague and is not directly asking you out,...then figure he is not asking you out,...or make him clarify what he is asking for.
kendahke Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Go get the coffee, put it on his desk and tell him next time, you'll both go. I think you're overthinking all of this.
kendahke Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Actually I didn’t wait for him to answer me. I asked him and as he were working he freeze for a fee second and I’m so embarrassed I left. But he didn’t even tlak about it later on so guessed he was hesitated for real Why were you embarrassed? That's what I"m not getting here. Once he asked me to go get coffee (in the canteen with him) or go do some chores with him etc, sometimes asking me to take breaks together, commenting on my social media. When he asked you to go get coffee, what did you say? How did you respond? Did you just freeze and look at him?
Author oneinamillion93 Posted August 30, 2018 Author Posted August 30, 2018 Why were you embarrassed? That's what I"m not getting here. When he asked you to go get coffee, what did you say? How did you respond? Did you just freeze and look at him? I freeze. I was so shy I couldn’t say yes. Just drive the conversation to something else. I did this every time that why I decided to go to him. If he asked me over the text this might not happened
kendahke Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 I freeze. I was so shy I couldn’t say yes. Just drive the conversation to something else. I did this every time that why I decided to go to him. If he asked me over the text this might not happened Then there is no hope that he's going to catch a clue if you're clamming up. He doesn't know what you're there for if you're not speaking up. Time to learn how to own your voice and speak up for what you want. Investing in shyness isn't going to get you closer to what you want. One day, you'll learn that what others think about you isn't your problem.
Author oneinamillion93 Posted September 1, 2018 Author Posted September 1, 2018 I did try to screw my shyness and that’s why I went to him. But I only go halfway in and freaked out. This’s my fault, now we’re just going back to friendly colleagues
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