chichi Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 how do you know if you are a potential g/f for a guy or if you are just a f@#$ buddy? what are the signs for each? how would you treat someone you want to have a realtionship with one day VS. how would you treat a f@#$ buddy?? please answer ASAP need advice on what this realtionship is?
NTB Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 well if i want you for a gf i will treat you as such and if i want you as a booty call then i will only talk to you when i want some a$$. simple
TUDOR Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 NTB is right. You will only get called when he wants some @ss and they won't talk about the details of their life. In other wards the relationship may be rather shallow.
Author chichi Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 ok so what if you call her everyday and hang out when we can we dont always have sex when we meet....he tells me personal things that are going on in his life and he is always talking about how much he likes me and when i say that it is a booty call he gets mad and says if i didnt like you i wouldnt talk to you everyday and i would just tell you to stop calling me??? then what? guys are so confusing!!! also he calls me just to talk and when i do go to his house we hang out other than just having sex.....what are some signs he would want to have a relationship with u?
bluechocolate Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Just to echo the previous two.... Also, if you're feeling like what you have is a casual sexual relationship then chances are that is exactly what you have.
NTB Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 maybe this guy wasn't upfront with you as i would have been if i'm only intersted in sex then that is what i will approach you with if your down for it then it is an agreement and it will be strictly sex when i want or when you want.......... now if he wants a girl that won't go see other guys while he is with her then this is what you have.... a guy will call, talk to you once in awhile, tell you likes you and then say lets hook up.....and then later and like BC said if that's what it feels like then that's what it is
TUDOR Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 ok so what if you call her everyday and hang out when we can we dont always have sex when we meet....he tells me personal things that are going on in his life and he is always talking about how much he likes me and when i say that it is a booty call he gets mad and says if i didnt like you i wouldnt talk to you everyday and i would just tell you to stop calling me??? then what? guys are so confusing!!! also he calls me just to talk and when i do go to his house we hang out other than just having sex.....what are some signs he would want to have a relationship with u? When in doubt just ask! You are entitled to know what his intentions are and where this is going. You can ask with out it seeming like you are pressuring him into a relationship but there is nothing wrong with just asking. Do you want a relationship with this guy? Sounds like you two need to do some communicating even if it is just FWB the relationship needs to be defined so that no one gets hurt.
alphamale Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 a girlfriend is someone that would be involved in my life and sex would just be one part of the relationship. For example, I would introduce a g/f to my family and friends. I would not do this with a f*** buddy.
Author chichi Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 i do want a relationship with him he is all i want....i am moving closer to him and he keeps telling me that once i move that things will be different...and i am hoping that they will....he always tells me that he likes me so much and he cant wait for me to move away from where i am at because there is too much drama with the people i hang out with. i dont know wha to do.....when a guy really wants to have something but is scared how do you know? he just got out of a realtionship and im going through a divorce so do you think that might have something to do with it?
Author chichi Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 also i have met his mom, aunt, and his grandmother.....i have stayed at his houde with him when they were there as well
NTB Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 well then just ask him what is the deal before you make this big jump
Dean3922 Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 If he's not seeing other women and doing them then I would say you have a relationship. Does he talk about dating other women? If he does then you are just a f^ck buddy.
Author chichi Posted September 6, 2005 Author Posted September 6, 2005 umm....he doesnt talk about other women or anything and he says he isnt sleeping with anyone else but me....but you never know but for the most part no he doesnt have anything going on with anyone else besides me. thanks for your advice
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