New Girl and me but the other crazy one still in the picture?

[Williamjacob]

So I still working on the crazy woman device she text me so much it's hard to deal with her. I told the new girl everything about her except the part I was hanging out with her in the parking lot at night. I want to return her device she wants it today I can't show up today. New girl friend wants to go with me to see the crazy one I told her no because not right for you to show up with me. I can handle things. She wanted to see what she looked like OMG really no way. How do you all think I should handle this? Really doing my head in. I do not want anything to do with the crazy girl. Thank God she doesn't call my cell she just text me like a bandit.

Edited August 28, 2018 by Williamjacob

[ExpatInItaly]

I think you need to take time off dating and learn what a healthy relationship looks like, honestly.

[Zahara]

Goodness. Two weeks ago you met this device lady and in that span of time you now have a new girlfriend?

 

Based on your other threads, it would be best for you to lay off dating and figure out why you're in this constant unhealthy loop.

[stillafool]

I agree with the others but I want to ask you something. If you are trying to rid yourself of the crazy girl why would you object to your new gf going with you to return the device? I can't think of a better way for crazy girl to get the message that you are not interested.

[MidwestUSA]

Why did you tell new girl all about crazy? Now, of course she wants to go along. Take her with you, return the device, block her, and be done. New girl wants to see proof that you're done with her.

 

And, as others suggested, if it doesn't work out with new girl, take a break. A long break.

[preraph]

You take your girlfriend with you or you aren't going to have a girlfriend.

[BaileyB]

I think you need to take time off dating and learn what a healthy relationship looks like, honestly.

 

Amen!

 

But seriously, where do you find these women...

[Williamjacob]

I ask for some suggestion I get attacked here why? I had taken the new girl with me but the other crazy one didn't show-up! Holiday weekend is coming up and I am not going to spend it waiting on the crazy one to show-up. She wanted her device back on Tuesday which has passed. There was no way to get it too her that day. I wasn't going to try to meet her in the parking lot again, no way!

[d0nnivain]

Why on earth would you tell the new girl anything about the crazy one? That was a terrible miscalculation on your part. You need to learn to keep your own counsel & never ever discuss past relationships with new love interests. By running your mouth you become a gossip, & you foster jealousy & insecurity.

 

This new girl is no great shakes if she didn't dump you for even mentioning an old "flame" to her especially when that woman is still contacting you & when you are still doing favors for her. You need to learn to make clean breaks. the new girl must also be almost as crazy as the other one -- or at least a pot stirrer -- if she thinks for 1 second that meeting the crazy girl is a good idea. You will have one heck of a cat fight on your hands if they cross paths.

 

 

Do you have the crazy chick's snail mail address or work address? If so do not meet her. Send the device back to her via Fed Ex, UPS or USPS express mail, any delivery method that enables you to take out insurance for the value of the device & gets you signed confirmation that she received the package. Yes that may be financially more money then giving it to her personally but it will save you so much in the long including insulate you from a possibly crazy lie by her that you stole her device.

[Williamjacob]

Why on earth would you tell the new girl anything about the crazy one? That was a terrible miscalculation on your part. You need to learn to keep your own counsel & never ever discuss past relationships with new love interests. By running your mouth you become a gossip, & you foster jealousy & insecurity.

 

This new girl is no great shakes if she didn't dump you for even mentioning an old "flame" to her especially when that woman is still contacting you & when you are still doing favors for her. You need to learn to make clean breaks. the new girl must also be almost as crazy as the other one -- or at least a pot stirrer -- if she thinks for 1 second that meeting the crazy girl is a good idea. You will have one heck of a cat fight on your hands if they cross paths.

 

 

Do you have the crazy chick's snail mail address or work address? If so do not meet her. Send the device back to her via Fed Ex, UPS or USPS express mail, any delivery method that enables you to take out insurance for the value of the device & gets you signed confirmation that she received the package. Yes that may be financially more money then giving it to her personally but it will save you so much in the long including insulate you from a possibly crazy lie by her that you stole her device.

 

I completely respect your comments, but I had better tell the truth and not seem like I was hiding something from the new girl friend. She's really into me but I wanted to ditch the other trouble maker because I had made a huge mistake thinking she wanted more but yet she only wanted me to give her 30K for college and in return she would be my girl. But that wasn't going to happen on my watch. I made me smart in business dealings but when it comes to this crazy girl from the islands she has the looks to kills but not the smarts to over take my mind. I was to easy to fix her issue and now stuck with it until I can get it back to her. No FedEx or UPS or USPS. Plus I think it's stolen also. I had to look up the device and matched it and found out she's not telling me the truth about it.

 

I wish she had never contact me and look at the mess I am in. But I'll take care of it. I do not know where she lives. She's still on facebook and she showing herself off like she's some hot A or P on there.

 

Once this is done I am never dealing with her again. New girl friend isn't anything like what all you have said she's stronger in that department. Thanks for you help though...

[d0nnivain]

I'm not suggesting you lie to a new girl but you need to learn a bit of diplomacy. I was serious when I said you need to become better about keeping your own counsel. Never treat a new love interest like your confessor.

[Williamjacob]

I'm not suggesting you lie to a new girl but you need to learn a bit of diplomacy. I was serious when I said you need to become better about keeping your own counsel. Never treat a new love interest like your confessor.

 

I understand you. Crazy one made contact today but I feel off to sleep. Her text read I need my device back today. Well I told her to be patient, I am busy and I will contact you when I can give it back to you.

 

That's what I told the crazy one, I can't even leave to take it back is the honest truth. New GF is right by my side. She's suppose to go away this weekend with her family. I should have a chance to take back the device to the crazy one in open day light. I do not want to two women to meet nor ask questions. It's not like I am having some sort of players complex. I just want things to go off smoothly. I am not a player but I just wanted to know why the Crazy one had contacted me. That answer will never be revealed. I just like to know why she did was it for the money or just to be friends outside prior work place.

 

I did get one long message from her she said I was being mean to her. I said mean things. Ouch! I said the way you haven't answer my request and just read the text with no response. She sent me a message saying she can't read or open the text while she was driving do you want me to get in to car collision. It might sound flexible but she's not telling the truth as were she has Bluetooth heads up display in her CRV to take cell phone calls. I know she doesn't want to accept my calls. I also know now that she doesn't even bother to call me like she did. (aka another man in her apartment now) It's okay just the fact is that all this shouldn't have never happen or got to this point. So much drama now and what the result of it?

 

To me she's a voluptuous drama queen!

Edited August 31, 2018 by Williamjacob

[d0nnivain]

Send the device to the crazy girl via Fed Ex. Seriously. Pay the $36 & whatever extra it costs for Saturday delivery. Get her off your back & get a receipt. You will be much better served. You can even take new girl to the Fed Ex store with you.

[Art_Critic]

Unless you stop talking to the first girl this will continue, I'm not sure why you are still engaging with her, WTF ? block and delete her and never speak to her again...

 

Where are your own boundaries and why are you not enforcing them ?

 

If it is the device them forget all about it tell someone contacts you other than her and wants it back, then deal with that person...or just give her the thing back and right now, then block and delete her..

 

By allowing contact you are the one who is starting to look crazy.. time to fix this...

[Williamjacob]

Unless you stop talking to the first girl this will continue, I'm not sure why you are still engaging with her, WTF ? block and delete her and never speak to her again...

 

Where are your own boundaries and why are you not enforcing them ?

 

If it is the device them forget all about it tell someone contacts you other than her and wants it back, then deal with that person...or just give her the thing back and right now, then block and delete her..

 

By allowing contact you are the one who is starting to look crazy.. time to fix this...

 

No I do not talk to crazy one at all.. I was going to drop it off near her work yesterday but I forgot she's off Friday and Saturday. Plus this is Labor Day weekend. By driving off yesterday the new gf got mad at me she sent me a nasty text. I had to do a U-turn go back and explain to her what happen. Now from her I am getting mix signal, who is this woman how do I know behind her back. I wish I never got that call last month this has gone out of control. No I am not spend money on something that is either the crazy one or it's stolen. I see she wants it back on her terms. She can have it back I don't even want to deal with her. I don't have address on her and I don't want to have one either. New GF seems a bit controlling as well. Doesn't let me out of her sight either. I have to see how to solve this issue just going overboard. Might be able to exchange it back be done with it.

[Art_Critic]

I do know that if I wanted someone to have a device it would only take me less than 30 mins to give it to them, you have waited a week ? 2 weeks ?.. you have spoken about it longer than it would have taken to just give it to her.

 

Why didn't you leave it at her work, she would have gotten it, you still haven't blocked her.. why ?

 

You are inviting drama in...

[Art_Critic]

I understand you. Crazy one made contact today but I feel off to sleep. Her text read I need my device back today. Well I told her to be patient, I am busy and I will contact you when I can give it back to you.

 

Yes you do talk to her...

[mrs rubble]

Drop the device off at the local police station to be returned to it's rightful owner....tell crazy where it's at then block her. Simple.

[Williamjacob]

Yes you do talk to her...

 

No I don't talk to her just type text message saying to meet me at BJs parking lot there is a lot of people shopping in the daylight. She read it and never answered so forget this. Just not going to happen I still think she's playing games. I have better things to do today that to cater to the likes of her. On facebook page she's been out I guess on a date to the movies showing offer her backside to all the 80 men who like what she to offer. I just saying this because she's not texting back so I am done. She wants this back go and get it at the local police/sheriff office. Because I am not going to deal with this ever again. Phone will be block now and she's gone for good.. I was out selling my devices from Offer-Up! Her's she could have come out to get it but refused. I guess it not on her terms but I am running this show. Not her. New GF is gone out so I had time on my hands selling devices and running around to meet the buyers.

[MidwestUSA]

New GF seems a bit controlling as well. Doesn't let me out of her sight either.

 

Better make sure you haven't simply exchanged one crazy for another.

[Art_Critic]

If she paid for that device I wouldn't sell it to someone else or she could file charges on you.

 

You posted

Well I told her to be patient, I am busy and I will contact you when I can give it back to you.

and that says you talked to her so that is where I got that you were talking to her.

 

Get rid of the device, give it to the police department is a good idea since she is crazy and she might do something you might not expect...

[Williamjacob]

If she paid for that device I wouldn't sell it to someone else or she could file charges on you.

 

You posted and that says you talked to her so that is where I got that you were talking to her.

 

Get rid of the device, give it to the police department is a good idea since she is crazy and she might do something you might not expect...

 

She prompted me like crazy yesterday I had people over here. I told her listen I can't go no where near you at night. You have to do it in daylight and nearer to me an in open public place. She refused. Told me I am mean. I say really I am not.

 

I didn't get rid of the device I still have it found out she might not be the owner of it. But if she wants it she can get it from me. I am having serious issues with the newer gf she's got me upset over the weekend. I really didn't want to talk to anyone else.

 

Text is not the same talking on the cell phone I and didn't speak to her. I told her she likes to party hard, she said she's not into parties she lies. I don't like how all this is going..

 

"facebook comment:

 

She said:

 

My natural hair is finally bra strap length. My daughter asked me why do I wear wigs if my hair is long.

 

I feel her baby daddy lives with her and that's why she can only meet me at her job at night. I am not going out there at night. She will not make any attempts to meet me near or near her place.

 

My life is gong south now and the new gf is such a lair...

[Zahara]

You have a pattern of attracting toxic women BUT that is indicative of your own dysfunction. There is a reason why you keep picking these women. You seem to have no boundaries, not selection process, no standards -- you just blindly latch onto women that come your way then before you know it you have a nutjob on your hands.

 

You should step away and be on your own for awhile. Find your self-awareness. You don't seem to be able to self-reflect on your past mistakes and find the lessons.

 

Stay single and work on yourself.

 

As for Crazy #1, mail the device to her. Then block her. Or drop it off the the police station and let her know then block. As for Crazy #2, block and move on as well. For some reason I think you are addicted to drama because you keep these women hovering and accessible to you.

[BaileyB]

I feel her baby daddy lives with her and that's why she can only meet me at her job at night.

 

Ya think so? Look back at the first page, don't say we didn't try to tell you...

 

You are most definitely having serious issues. If your life is going South... the person driving the bus is you!

 

This story is grandiose, tangential, and almost too much to believe...

Edited September 3, 2018 by BaileyB

[Williamjacob]

On Labor day she demanded her device back and started yelling on text message to me saying I have disrespected her again and again. I had said what did you just say. Where are you getting that smack from. You don't get it I spend so much time to fix your device and to get it ready for you. She gone on to say she was sorry and she's so busy she doesn't have time for her own self. Well as you all have know she new gf was out with her family so I had a chance to give crazy her device back. I even setup a place to see her nearer to my house at CVS 24/hour. It was almost time for crazy to get out of work, where new gf rang to say she was ready for me to pick her up. She sounded drunk as dog on the cell. OMG no way.. No fun tonight with her LOL..

 

As I got ready got a call from my other friend told him what was going on while driving and talking to him, crazy calls me up on cell and I place him on hold to take her call this was like 8:15 pm. She was so nice to me on the cell it like she was happy to talk to me. I am not taken but her games of flirt and deceit. I just wanted to hear what she said. As I did mention last time I was in pain because I had got really upset with new gf and lost my voice. So I had sounded harsh on the cell. Crazy was really nice about everything told me she didn't want to talk to me while she was driving home. I told her sorry I couldn't make it had to pick up someone really bad and it was out of my control. She completely understand. She's been so busy she can't make ends meet. I find it strange how she acting like this now. I know she won't be with me but again she just can't find the right guy to be with. I didn't offer myself to her because she's crazy and I am tired of crazy women. I am some sort of magnet for them.

 

My looks can get me any type of woman I want but I seem to like the ones that are more direct, very good looking and can handle their own stuff. But one thing I forget is their crazy eyes and what the yell come out of their mouth is just poop. Crazy sounds like the perfect date but she's not she sounded so rude in her text and what she has on facebook would turn your heads to shame when she gets really upset. I don't know who's worst crazy 1 or crazy 2 as you all have put it.

 

I've dated all sorts of women but seem about 7 are crazy now. Just can't take I made a comment my life is was going south well with crazy 2 it's up and down battle to make it work. Even the perfect girls are crazy as well.

 

I told the crazy 1 I would meet her in the morning on Sept 6, since I have to go to DMV for registration renewal. I want to get her device back to her as soon as possible. I feel another hug coming on with her. I really just can't go back smelling like her as crazy new gf is going to say I was cheating on her. I am not..

 

I do not want to get my life in a huge mess over these two women. Crazy I told her I was just your friend nothing else, as I can see if you say the wrong thing to her she would lose it on you. I got a message from her yesterday saying how I was feeling. I thought the message I replied back gone through it didn't on my end. I got a call from crazy 1 10 hrs ago but me and crazy 2 where sleeping together.. Long day. Crazy 2 can really cook for me. She keeps the house so nice, just have that crazy side to her though.

 

She likes watching the movies I like. Example Blood Fest or The Last Sharknado: It's About Time. Got to have someone who can stand up to this sort of movie watching.

 

I am not taking a back step to dating, all I wanted to know was how to handle crazy 1 or what she was up too. Sure it was 30K and someone like me to fix her device. No her device is broken before she gave it to me and it still has issues on it. I finish trying to fix it. Crazy 1 just too crazy for me, makes a great friend though I don't think after this crazy drama would I ever here from her again. As for crazy new gf she might have her moments but I will not fight with her again it's not healthy to do so. I got a slight pain in my heart area. I am okay and thanks for asking. Just can't let these crazy women get to me like that. I am not weak but I will yell over them if I have too to get my point across to them.