1Jessie86 Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 My boyfriend thinks that I think that he can't do anything right. This isn't true. I may nag him too much about his mannerisms but I actually think he's perfect. How can I get him to realize this?
d0nnivain Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 Tell him he's perfect in your eyes & stop criticizing him. 1
Redhead14 Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 My boyfriend thinks that I think that he can't do anything right. This isn't true. I may nag him too much about his mannerisms but I actually think he's perfect. How can I get him to realize this? Start telling him you appreciate his strengths and praising him more and "nag" and don't nag him. Does he nag you about the "little" things? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 My boyfriend thinks that I think that he can't do anything right. This isn't true. I may nag him too much about his mannerisms but I actually think he's perfect. How can I get him to realize this? Stop doing this? 1
Zahara Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 I may nag him too much about his mannerisms but I actually think he's perfect. I'm sure his mannerisms were there when you started dating him. Why is it a bother now? Stop nagging. He can't be perfect if you're trying to change him. 1
smackie9 Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 He's not perfect if his mannerisms are so notable that you have to scold him about like you are his mother. If you can't stop the nagging or if it irritates you that much, you shouldn't be with him. Harsh words but it's the truth. It's breaking his heart that you can't accept him for the way he is. Eventually it's going to wear him down and will kick you to the curb. 1
preraph Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 Number one, don't nag him about something he can't fix. Number two, if you're going to criticize, you need to find two things to say nice about him first. Don't be his mommy! Nagging and being someone's mommy will kill romance every time. You can stand up for yourself without nagging. My policy is if someone is making me into a nagger, I'm outta there. I don't want to be that.
Desesperado Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 Oh boy, you openly admit nagging the guy and complain that he then rightfully is pissed off from your nagging, is this for real ? I see nagging is considered normal among some women, but honestly it's just really poor communication skills, as another poster said, this guy was like this already the beginning, so you didn't say anything first, maybe expecting a magical change and now you resort to nagging, because you're annoyed the change you didn't communicate doesn't come... Very mature of you. Either you talk like adults and assess if this is workable, or you face the fact you chose someone wrong and expected they change, since it's not likely to happen, you then break up and next time choose better. The poor guy deserves better !
Logo Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 Do you nag him because you think you're better than him? Are you embarrassed when you're with him in public? Does it make you feel better about yourself when you criticize him? Does it boost your self-esteem or self-image? Do you, yourself, have any faults that you're trying to work on or do you consider yourself perfect?
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