Author D19 Posted August 29, 2018 Author Posted August 29, 2018 ps i truly believe if you stop "waiting" for it, and start handling your relationship from your end like you don't need those words, you will hear them from him. youre so right. This is what I was meaning about self care and taking some time to myself. I guess it’s like a watched pot never boils etc My anxiety gets the best of me at times with the whole “he doesn’t love you, never has and never will” and I’ve been trying to fight that away for months but every so often it comes back like a disease and takes over my life for a few days. I Need to get that under control again. Thanks for the help! 1
Logo Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 I'm trying to imagine ten months of sweaty lovemaking and no breathless ILY's. There could be some high fiving.
d0nnivain Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 If you are spending every night together & want to take a step back, do that but don't announce that you are taking a break or stepping back. Just plan something else -- even doing laundry -- 1 or 2 nights per week. In short back off but don't discuss it. If he notices just say you wanted to make sure you each had time for yourselves. His reluctance to say the words does have something to do with the EX's presence in his life. He hasn't quite figured out that she was a young love. He's unconsciously comparing the relationships & not understanding the differences. Yours should be a more mature bonding but he's looking solely at longevity & he can't process the differences between the two relationships so he's trying to figure out what being in love means. 1
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