Black Cement Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I'm using Tinder, talked with this girl and she asks me what I'm looking for. So I tell her dating and maybe more. She tells me she's "looking for a good time, and if we vibe, maybe more." I assume she's talking about sex, right? I didn't want to ask her what she meant. I'm old school, not really into promiscuous stuff like that, especially if we met online. Should I just go for it?
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 If you are old school & not into promiscuous, you probably shouldn't meet a woman who is just "looking for a good time." 1). You won't like her character. 2). you probably can't keep up / you're too serious for her. Everything about your profiles screams that you are incompatible. So what is the point of meeting her? You are only going to make each other unhappy. 2
PRW Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I'm using Tinder, talked with this girl and she asks me what I'm looking for. So I tell her dating and maybe more. She tells me she's "looking for a good time, and if we vibe, maybe more." I assume she's talking about sex, right? I didn't want to ask her what she meant. I'm old school, not really into promiscuous stuff like that, especially if we met online. Well, if Sex = "good time" ...then what the heck would "more" mean? So no. "Good time" = Fun, party, etc. "vibe"= You don't creep her out "More" = Sex 1
coolheadal Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I'm using Tinder, talked with this girl and she asks me what I'm looking for. So I tell her dating and maybe more. She tells me she's "looking for a good time, and if we vibe, maybe more." I assume she's talking about sex, right? I didn't want to ask her what she meant. I'm old school, not really into promiscuous stuff like that, especially if we met online. Should I just go for it? She might be out of your league as with men like us who are really looking to date and go from there. These women on Tinder, Bubble and Yo Cutie are only looking for hookups, causal sex, just having a good time (means flirt, tease, and be playful (sex acts). Whens she done with you she'll call out NEXT!
PRW Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 If you are old school & not into promiscuous, you probably shouldn't meet a woman who is just "looking for a good time." 1). You won't like her character. 2). you probably can't keep up / you're too serious for her. Everything about your profiles screams that you are incompatible. So what is the point of meeting her? You are only going to make each other unhappy.Ooohhh, Now. Don't be a downer It's Tinder. You can't take anything too serious on Tinder. Most of the time people on Tinder won't pull the trigger on meeting, or they "flake" or stand you up anyway. I'd say meet her. She won't bite,...hard. She probably has a whole list of Tinder Dudes to work her way through anyway,...might just meet her once and never again. That's what I'd do. I'd be willing to meet anyone on Tinder at least once as long as I feel reasonably attracted to them (and I'm a guy so that ain't hard).
coolheadal Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 PRW you play game very well.. Most men want to date and most women want have a good time. OP has to define what he wants date or just have fun (meaning wild sex) and just not getting serious with the chick from Tinder!
smackie9 Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 The only way to find out is to ask her out and see where it goes.
PRW Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 PRW you play game very well.. It's always easier to tell someone else what to do than it is to do it myself.....
Mrin Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Based on my experiences "good time" means going out on some fun dates and probably NSA sex if there is strong chemistry. Casual dating type stuff. "More" means actual feels/dating relationship.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Well, if Sex = "good time" ...then what the heck would "more" mean? So no. "Good time" = Fun, party, etc. "vibe"= You don't creep her out "More" = Sex I think "good time" means sex in this case and "possibly more" means a continuing FWB arrangement. 1
Highndry Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I'm not sure it could be any more clear. There's this terrible old song... "...she bangs, she bangs..."
snowboy91 Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 "Good time" - definitely means sex. It's Tinder. That's what it was intended for. "Maybe more" - if there is chemistry/connection, possibly ongoing FWB or even a relationship further down the track. If you're that old school then this isn't the girl for you. If you're open to some casual/NSA sex then go for it. Don't expect anything serious from it, unless there is some good chemistry. 1
Logo Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 (edited) Most men want to date and most women want have a good time. Online, women only need men for physical gratification. It's like ordering pizza, click click and she's got what she wants. Men want a relationship. That's what the world of online dating has created. If men stopped doing this no strings attached bs, women would be more faithful, humbler, grateful and stop being gold-diggers. Edited August 28, 2018 by Logo
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