Butterflying Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Previously I wrote about a guy I was dating who made me feel insecure. He was secretive and a self centered most of the time. We stopped dating after I decided that having a relationship that is open and honest is essential for me. But we remained friends (or so I thought) because we had been friends before dating. He never calls or texts me anymore. We haven’t seen each other in three months. The few times that we’ve spoken by phone were the times I called him just to say hello & catch up or get advice. Recently I called him. He answered to say he was busy & would call ball in “a minute.” But he never called back. Hours later he sent an email. The email was a link to a YouTube video about preparing for an economic crash in the US. He sends these type of videos at least once a week. He never comments or says why he’s sharing it. It’s not a subject I’m interested in. Although I know from previous conversations that he’s passionate about it, so much that he seems a little crazy. All doomsday prep folk are a little koo koo! Twice I have replied to the videos by thanking him for sharing it. I have asked questions about specific details that I didn’t understand or found interesting from the videos. But he never responds. Why does he send these things if he doesn’t want to talk about it? Should I send him an email requesting to be removed from his mailing list since I have no interest in what he’s sending & there seems to be no personal connection to any of it?
Redhead14 Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Previously I wrote about a guy I was dating who made me feel insecure. He was secretive and a self centered most of the time. We stopped dating after I decided that having a relationship that is open and honest is essential for me. But we remained friends (or so I thought) because we had been friends before dating. He never calls or texts me anymore. We haven’t seen each other in three months. The few times that we’ve spoken by phone were the times I called him just to say hello & catch up or get advice. Recently I called him. He answered to say he was busy & would call ball in “a minute.” But he never called back. Hours later he sent an email. The email was a link to a YouTube video about preparing for an economic crash in the US. He sends these type of videos at least once a week. He never comments or says why he’s sharing it. It’s not a subject I’m interested in. Although I know from previous conversations that he’s passionate about it, so much that he seems a little crazy. All doomsday prep folk are a little koo koo! Twice I have replied to the videos by thanking him for sharing it. I have asked questions about specific details that I didn’t understand or found interesting from the videos. But he never responds. Why does he send these things if he doesn’t want to talk about it? Should I send him an email requesting to be removed from his mailing list since I have no interest in what he’s sending & there seems to be no personal connection to any of it? Report it as spam . . . 1
Zahara Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Should I send him an email requesting to be removed from his mailing list since I have no interest in what he’s sending & there seems to be no personal connection to any of it? No need to announce it. The need to do so is usually an attempt to provoke an emotional response. Send it to spam. You won't see it and it won't bother you anymore. 3
stillafool Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Previously I wrote about a guy I was dating who made me feel insecure. He was secretive and a self centered most of the time. We stopped dating after I decided that having a relationship that is open and honest is essential for me. But we remained friends (or so I thought) because we had been friends before dating. He never calls or texts me anymore. We haven’t seen each other in three months. The few times that we’ve spoken by phone were the times I called him just to say hello & catch up or get advice. Recently I called him. He answered to say he was busy & would call ball in “a minute.” But he never called back. Hours later he sent an email. The email was a link to a YouTube video about preparing for an economic crash in the US. He sends these type of videos at least once a week. He never comments or says why he’s sharing it. It’s not a subject I’m interested in. Although I know from previous conversations that he’s passionate about it, so much that he seems a little crazy. All doomsday prep folk are a little koo koo! Twice I have replied to the videos by thanking him for sharing it. I have asked questions about specific details that I didn’t understand or found interesting from the videos. But he never responds. Why does he send these things if he doesn’t want to talk about it? Should I send him an email requesting to be removed from his mailing list since I have no interest in what he’s sending & there seems to be no personal connection to any of it? He's sending a group email to alert people of the issue and you are included in the group. Why do you continue to respond to him? 1
Author Butterflying Posted August 27, 2018 Author Posted August 27, 2018 He's sending a group email to alert people of the issue and you are included in the group. Why do you continue to respond to him? I respond because I’ve never gotten spam emails from an actual person that I know. And when other friends share group texts or emails, I can see that other people have been included. Never the less, when I respond to those friends emails by thanking them or telling them what I thought about the information they shared, they reply back with their comments as well. Sometimes it starts a conversation that carries over to a phone call or discussion at a gathering with other friends. None of my friends have ever spammed me. So far, this guy is the only one. And it didn’t start until after we broke up. And there’s nobody else included in the messages. That makes it appear that he’s sending them directly to me. I would love to ask him about it, at least over the phone if not in person. But that’s impossible now that he hasn’t returned my call. I have too much pride to call him again. I don’t want to seem desperate or nagging.
Redhead14 Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I respond because I’ve never gotten spam emails from an actual person that I know. And when other friends share group texts or emails, I can see that other people have been included. Never the less, when I respond to those friends emails by thanking them or telling them what I thought about the information they shared, they reply back with their comments as well. Sometimes it starts a conversation that carries over to a phone call or discussion at a gathering with other friends. None of my friends have ever spammed me. So far, this guy is the only one. And it didn’t start until after we broke up. And there’s nobody else included in the messages. That makes it appear that he’s sending them directly to me. I would love to ask him about it, at least over the phone if not in person. But that’s impossible now that he hasn’t returned my call. I have too much pride to call him again. I don’t want to seem desperate or nagging. Get out of his head and give your own a break. Ignore/delete the emails. It's possible that his email account was hacked. Hackers can make emails appear to have legitimately come from a specific person and that person doesn't even know. Let it go. 2
Zahara Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 We stopped dating after I decided that having a relationship that is open and honest is essential for me. If these are your standards and values, then cut the tie you have with him. He's not going to miraculously change into someone that can give you what you want. If you are trying to decipher his motive as interest, then let it go. It's not worth trying to figure him out -- you couldn't even do that when you were both dating. 1
smackie9 Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 He does it prob because he knows it bugs you when he doesn't respond...kinda like sticking it to you or it makes him feel important...whatever it is just, block/delete/mark it as junk and move on.
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