Author JessePinkman Posted September 5, 2018 Author Posted September 5, 2018 So she loves you but doesn't want to be your girlfriend? Forget her. She doesn't take the word love very seriously and doesn't appear to have much consideration for your feelings. It may be something she says to keep a guy hooked while she continues to play around. You haven't ruined anything, though, because I don't think there was a solid basis here anyway. This girl turned out to be a dud. Toss her back and find someone who is consistent, mature and supports her words with actions. I guess. Just sick of this happening you know.
Author JessePinkman Posted September 6, 2018 Author Posted September 6, 2018 Well, I have entered ghost mode today. So far I've received 1 missed call and 1 text message. I have also been talking to other girls a bit today and generally just starting to move on. If she wants to come running, fine but I am not changing my principles or waiting about for something that probably won't ever happen. I am taking the power back.
ExpatInItaly Posted September 7, 2018 Posted September 7, 2018 Well, I have entered ghost mode today. So far I've received 1 missed call and 1 text message. I have also been talking to other girls a bit today and generally just starting to move on. If she wants to come running, fine but I am not changing my principles or waiting about for something that probably won't ever happen. I am taking the power back. What is your purpose in ignoring her, though? I don't really get your goal with that. If you don't want to see her anymore, just tell her and end it definitively. That is taking your power back. 1
damni Posted September 7, 2018 Posted September 7, 2018 Well, I have entered ghost mode today. So far I've received 1 missed call and 1 text message. I have also been talking to other girls a bit today and generally just starting to move on. If she wants to come running, fine but I am not changing my principles or waiting about for something that probably won't ever happen. I am taking the power back. Well done, you are doing the right thing. I been that girl when I was younger, so I know what she is doing She is pushing to see how much you will take and wants you to chase her. The dating world is tough out there, took me three years after my last relationship ended to find someone right and decent for me. So dont give up.
Author JessePinkman Posted September 7, 2018 Author Posted September 7, 2018 What is your purpose in ignoring her, though? I don't really get your goal with that. If you don't want to see her anymore, just tell her and end it definitively. That is taking your power back. My goal was just to show that I am a busy person and I am not just there for when she wants to talk. I have a life too. I've spoke to her a bit today, as we are going on a date tomorrow night. So I just confirmed the details and that was it really. I realised I was making myself too available. Also, her hormones are all over the place, she hasn't had her period in 2 months (no not pregnant all tests have been done) and is on new morning after pill so her emotions are bound to be confused. Not that I am justifying her behaviour though. I genuinely like this girl and I would like to see it work but I won't be a walkover anymore. What damni says is right, she is pushing me. Well done, you are doing the right thing. I been that girl when I was younger, so I know what she is doing She is pushing to see how much you will take and wants you to chase her. The dating world is tough out there, took me three years after my last relationship ended to find someone right and decent for me. So dont give up. Thanks. I believe this is the key to counter her doing that. Like I said, I've spoke to her a bit today, as we have a date tomorrow night, but after that I will be busy again.
kendahke Posted September 7, 2018 Posted September 7, 2018 One minute shes telling me she can see a future with me, the next she is telling me she wants to go slow and we have just to go with the flow. Those two points are not mutually exclusive. One can see a future with someone and still want to go slow so as to not ruin "the now" by living in the future. I actually hate myself sometimes. I've done this previously and ruined potential relationships. Yes I know I obviously have issues, I am trying my best to work through these issues. You'll get much further down this road by taking a break from actually dating and instead addressing your issues with a therapist. If you hate yourself, you can't expect others to love you. People will follow your cue. Change how you feel about yourself and perhaps you'll attract someone more in alignment with that. Right now, you're attracting people who will buttress your feelings about yourself. 1
Author JessePinkman Posted September 8, 2018 Author Posted September 8, 2018 Those two points are not mutually exclusive. One can see a future with someone and still want to go slow so as to not ruin "the now" by living in the future. You'll get much further down this road by taking a break from actually dating and instead addressing your issues with a therapist. If you hate yourself, you can't expect others to love you. People will follow your cue. Change how you feel about yourself and perhaps you'll attract someone more in alignment with that. Right now, you're attracting people who will buttress your feelings about yourself. Solid advice to be fair.
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