Lovehel Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 So I met this guy on tinder he seemed nice down to earth funny was the same age. It was all good we kissed a bit that night. I remember saying "oh I like kissing you" to which he replied " yeah cause its fun? " like super sarcastic...I am not one who really likes sarcasm in that way anyway. Anyway I just went on forgot about it and had a beer...it was all fine until the next day I realized my purse was gone from my bag. I now am starting to feel like where could it have gone because I didn't take it out all night and so it is just really strange... I am now starting to wonder if he took it because when I freaked the next day about my purse he was overly calm just lying there like it is no big deal. He kept saying sorry a lot about so many things also actually. Anyway he would say things in a light tone such as "shutaappp" I was like okay? Or " I told you about bringing the purse" which he didn't . He never asked me anything about my family how many siblings I have nothing now in hindsight he mainly talked about himself. I stayed the night because it was easier than going home (I live in a strict judgemental household) I woke up after a few hours was turning then had almost fallen asleep when I felt him feeling my body and undoing my belt? I put his hand back where I felt comfortable with it, he made some comment I can't remember I just laughed to lighten the awkwardness and went to sleep. When I got up I went to the bathroom to put on some makeup, I have acne issues and not comfortable with someone I don't know well seeing my bare skin with the scars. When I came back into the room he goes "did you just take off makeup to put it on again?" I was thinking I don't have to explain myself to you. When I then was about to leave he started like trying to put me on the bed I dodged him and was like no I have to leave, are you horny or something? He goes I am always...it just made me feel so gross like a piece of meat. The reason I met him was because I felt we hit off for ages we talked for so many hours and I genuinely found him entertaining and funny. 2 days later he hasn't asked me about my purse or anything. I am really going off ever meeting someone from tinder ever again. Maybe it was my fault for staying over? If I knew I would lose or someone would steal my purse I would have never gone! It never happened to me before I am super careful and was blaming myself the next day hating myself for bringing my whole purse every single card I need instead of making me feel better he agrees with how stupid it was and goes this is all I bring and shows me one bank card. Talk about making me feel like crap. And he just wasn't half as interesting as I thought he would be. I thought I was finally going to meet someone just awesome that was genuinely interested in me and I feel I couldn't have been more wrong? Regret it now. Can anyone here say something to either cheer me up or just let me know what you think. I feel like the biggest idiot right now.
memekay Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I think he’s a creep and you had a lucky escape. May be reading too much between the lines here, but if I ever had any reason to suspect a date had taken my purse, I’d also call the cops (PS. it was not stupid of you to bring your purse).
ExpatInItaly Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 You learned a valuable lesson here - never go home with a stranger. Talking for ages beforehand doesn't count, because you don't know how much of what he was saying was true or meant to get you right where he wanted you. You can't really know someone you have never met in person. He could have turned out be a lot more aggressive and forceful and there would have been almost nothing you could have done to stop him. Whether or not he stole your purse is another story. Perhaps it was him, or perhaps you were pickpocketed. Where did you meet him before going home with him? Just stop communicating with him. He hasn't asked about your purse because, frankly, he doesn't care.
Zippy2000 Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Say something to cheer you up? Well, one of my female friends went on a date with a guy to the pub. She met him at the and she turned to barman to ask for two drinks. When she got them served she turned round to see the guy leave. She just saw a bit of his leg walking out the door and the door closing behind him! Must have been the shortest date ever!
stillafool Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 I'm still trying to understand how she lives in an extremely judgmental household so that's why she decided to spend the night. That doesn't make sense to me.
d0nnivain Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 You are not an idiot. You hopefully learned a valuable lesson. All the talking in the world doesn't mean you actually know the person enough to sleep over. Also in the future it may be better to pair down your wallet / purse when you go out. Best wishes cancelling all the credit cards & replacing your driver's license. Do put a fraud alert on yourself for identity theft.
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