BaileyB Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 I once dated a man who told me when we broke up that I would "make a good wife and mother for someone, someday..." That comment bothers me because I felt that he was looking to find someone to fill "the role," as opposed to seeing me as a person. OP, I do believe that there are many good women out there. You are young, you will find someone who will make you be very happy. Will she be your "dream" woman - perhaps not. But, she will be a good woman who will bring something special to your life. Good luck.
2.50 a gallon Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 When I started high school I was the shortest guy in the school. Even my sister in the 6th grade was taller than me. When I started driving a cou0ple of year later I had to look thru the steering wheel and was so short with my baby face I got pulled over by the cops thinking some young kid was stealing a car. When it came to the school dances, hardly any of the girls wanted to dance with me. But I noticed none of the guys knew how to fast dance or what they called the bob. So I got one of my sister's friend to teach me, then I practiced and then guess what even the senior girls were hanging around hoping that I would asked them to dance. In high school I got a job at a fast food burger shop and learned how to cook hamburgers. Later after moving out on my own I put the knowledge in use and began teaching myself to cook. I got me a Weber and learned how to grill. It was not long before the neighbor gals began asking when I was grilling and would I mind if they brought a steak to grill. When they brought a bottle of wine it was a signal they were going to share and were planning on me cooking them breakfast.
SouthernIslander Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 Honey, enjoy your youth and live life! You’re only 19 and your preferences will change lots over the years.
preraph Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 Some women just prefer to be chaste much later in life and don't want to waste their youth doing it. There's plenty of time to be chaste when you get old. You are not offering as much as you are requiring in a woman. A woman with all those attributes will be able to get a man with all that and more. You've got to stop making lists of what you want in one and instead spend your time out there talking to (D0nnivain's suggestion) the ones who aren't as social and don't stand out to you and find someone that way. She won't be as good looking or as popular, but she may be smarter than you and nurturing. To do that, you're going to have to have the nerve to walk up to a girl on campus or elsewhere and ask if you can sit down and introduce yourself and find out who she is. Good luck. I advise you avoid porn since you are wanting someone who is inexperienced sexually so that you don't have unrealistic expectations. My guess is in five years, you're going to be looking for someone good in bed and not a near-virgin, but there's plenty of time for that. 1
Logo Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Ten or twenty years from now you'll look back at this thread and think to yourself, "Why was I so hard on myself? What was I thinking?" But, I get it, by the time you're 20 you feel that every single move you make is going to affect you for eternity. The truth is that at your age, you should be having fun, dating as many people as you can, enjoying your youth and taking things easy. Explore, experiment, meet new people and have new experiences. The girl of your dreams will come, and your 'list' of what you're looking for is going to change over time. So stay flexible, enjoy each relationship for as long as you can. Learn and grow after each relationship. And by the time you're 30 you'll be with the person who's right for you. You'll be perfect for each other. Whatever you do, be safe, be smart, always use protection, don't be shy, don't be too hard on yourself, we all make mistakes; and when a relationship ends, don't take it too seriously. You'll find your way. 3
preraph Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 ^ That's a very good point. What you want in a woman will change the more women you get to know. It's like house hunting. When you first go house hunting, you think you know what you want, but after doing it for a few weeks, you realize what you thought you wanted has drastically changed. 1
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