Loveydovey101 Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 So I went on a date with this boy. It was amazing and I left feeling completely head over hills for the guy. Holding hands, a kiss, hugging, awesome. He expressed similar satisfaction in the date and we planned our next one for 2 days later. Immediately conversation felt more awkward, silent pauses, no physical interaction. It felt like an awkward first date. We drove to a park and walked around, things got better as we started talking about going camping together, but the lack of physical intimacy and compliments didn't satisfy me. At this point I decided I'm going to let him grab for my hand, since he's too shy to do so. During the movie he held me hand and cuddled into my shoulder which was nice. We ended up kissing and the intimacy that was in the first date, was here now. Conversation continued to go well, but now as I'm sitting here, I can't help but wish things felt as amazing as the first date. Why wasn't he telling me how amazing I am? Why wasn't he saying how cute i look? I was missing those cute things he would text and say on the first date, but today they were gone. I don't know if anyone has had a similar situation, but it has me feeling so conflicted. I've got insecurities and thinking about how this could mean he's not that into me anymore doesn't feel great. I can't tell if he's changed, I've changed, or if things just aren't as magical as the first date. It's driving me insane. I feel like a lot of people have a similar issue. It was a good date, but not as MAGICAL as the first.
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Since you have a split experience, the only way to resolve is a tie breaker. Set up a 3rd date
kendahke Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Don't rush devotion or intimacy in situationships, which is what this is right now.
Gaeta Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 How many times in a date does he have to say you're amazing & beautiful for you to feel appreciated? He told you on your first date because it was your first face to face meeting. Do you really need to hear it over and over? Now he told you you're beautiful and amazing can he concentrate on exploring your inner qualities? A man that is constantly telling you you're amazing and beautiful isn't concentrating on the right things. Your looks is just 1 aspect of you. Men that concentrate too much on your looks don't have much to offer you. . 1
Desesperado Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 At this point I decided I'm going to let him grab for my hand, since he's too shy to do so. Why wasn't he telling me how amazing I am? Why wasn't he saying how cute i look? I was missing those cute things he would text and say on the first date, but today they were gone. It was a good date, but not as MAGICAL as the first. Ehhh wait what ? It's like knowing the guy is allergic to seafood and expecting him to eat paella !!!? Expecting compliments and magic ? All this really oozes ridiculous expectations and not lots of maturity. We all want great dates but be realistic, life isn't a fairytale and you should keep your logic on. Why do you want such compliments so much, words anyway can be faked, you should only judge people on their actions. Just go on 3rd date and you'll see !
Redhead14 Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 I left feeling completely head over hills for the guy -- Sweetie, if you're feeling this strongly about a guy after 1 date, it's not about him. It's about you and your "dreams". And, men can sense when a girl/woman is moving too fast. They sense your urgency and insecurity. So they tone it down a bit. You're looking for an instant relationship and that's not realistic or healthy. You should just be sitting back a little more and observing for the first few dates. It's good to enjoy the time, of course. But, if a guy is being a little over the top with compliments, etc. on a first date, sometimes it's just a sign that he's only got one thing on his mind. Sit back a little more and just observe.
stillafool Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 So I went on a date with this boy. It was amazing and I left feeling completely head over hills for the guy. Holding hands, a kiss, hugging, awesome. He expressed similar satisfaction in the date and we planned our next one for 2 days later. Immediately conversation felt more awkward, silent pauses, no physical interaction. It felt like an awkward first date. We drove to a park and walked around, things got better as we started talking about going camping together, but the lack of physical intimacy and compliments didn't satisfy me. At this point I decided I'm going to let him grab for my hand, since he's too shy to do so. During the movie he held me hand and cuddled into my shoulder which was nice. We ended up kissing and the intimacy that was in the first date, was here now. Conversation continued to go well, but now as I'm sitting here, I can't help but wish things felt as amazing as the first date. Why wasn't he telling me how amazing I am? Why wasn't he saying how cute i look? I was missing those cute things he would text and say on the first date, but today they were gone. I don't know if anyone has had a similar situation, but it has me feeling so conflicted. I've got insecurities and thinking about how this could mean he's not that into me anymore doesn't feel great. I can't tell if he's changed, I've changed, or if things just aren't as magical as the first date. It's driving me insane. I feel like a lot of people have a similar issue. It was a good date, but not as MAGICAL as the first. I think it's asking too much to expect someone to constantly compliment you on your looks. That gets exhausting quickly and comes off as being needy and insecure as hell.
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