XForeverstardust Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 If a guy constantly texts you like every hour. And when you try to end the convo he always asks if everything is ok and if you leave him on read he gets pissed off and thinks your cutting him out. Last time we got into an argument and than I gave him a response and passed out (fell asleep), he responded to my message and than sends a follow up 20 mins later assuming I was ignoring him and don't want to talk to him anymore. If an argument breaks out he will keep arguing back and forth with long messages (usually guys give a one worded response and disappear until things cool down). Than sends a long apology the next day. And says follow ups like “If you dont want to talk to me anymore i would understand.” And when you go like 6 hours without texting he says “I’ve been waiting all day for you to reply”. If he doesn't respond for a couple of hours he would ALWAYS apologize (which is sweet but at the same time, is it necessary?) For the record we are not in a relationship. Last time I told him I was hanging out with someone (just a friend) he goes like "Oh so you're telling me that you have a thing with them too?" Does it mean he’s clingy,emotional and needy?
Ronni_W Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Does it mean he’s clingy,emotional and needy? Yes; yes it does mean exactly that. Emotionally immature and undeveloped and under-developed. Keep doing what you have been doing in this relationship ONLY if, at this stage of your own maturing and developing, you want to become a 'parent' to somebody else. 1
hippychick3 Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 It means you need to RUN. Far away. Like right now. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Yes, this behavior means he's needy and desperate and is looking for you to prop him up emotionally. Definitely, don't play the game. Avoid apologizing for ignoring texts or responding slowly ... very slowly ... or even ignoring him. 2
smackie9 Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 ewwww yuk yes! he's not mature enough yet to be in a real relationship. Kinda sucks but, you need to tell him he's to much and you don't want to handle this stuff anymore.
Author XForeverstardust Posted August 24, 2018 Author Posted August 24, 2018 Does this guy have friends other than you? He said he cut off all of his friends who he deemed toxic and only keeps in touch with 3 good friends and me.
Gretchen12 Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 I know for certain it means he has a lot of idle time on his hands. It is also obvious that he's afraid to talk on the phone. 1
basil67 Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 He said he cut off all of his friends who he deemed toxic and only keeps in touch with 3 good friends and me. It could be that his so-called toxic friends put up boundaries because of this type of behaviour. Be prepared for the time when you put boundaries in place that his response will be to call you toxic and unsupportive. 2
d0nnivain Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 He's definitely immature. I'd feel smothered in what you describe & would have cut him off a while ago. 1
stillafool Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Let him go now! He will drive you crazy, just no.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 This guy has issues that are unrelated to you. He doesn't understand (or simply doesn't care) about boundaries. You're not even dating him and he's smothering you. I would not continue communicating with him, as it appears he thinks you have a "thing" with him. That's not good. He's living in his own mind. He probably cut off all his other friends because they were also rightly put off by his behaviour. How did you meet him? Do you hang out with him? 1
coolheadal Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 If a guy constantly texts you like every hour. And when you try to end the convo he always asks if everything is ok and if you leave him on read he gets pissed off and thinks your cutting him out. Last time we got into an argument and than I gave him a response and passed out (fell asleep), he responded to my message and than sends a follow up 20 mins later assuming I was ignoring him and don't want to talk to him anymore. If an argument breaks out he will keep arguing back and forth with long messages (usually guys give a one worded response and disappear until things cool down). Than sends a long apology the next day. And says follow ups like “If you dont want to talk to me anymore i would understand.” And when you go like 6 hours without texting he says “I’ve been waiting all day for you to reply”. If he doesn't respond for a couple of hours he would ALWAYS apologize (which is sweet but at the same time, is it necessary?) For the record we are not in a relationship. Last time I told him I was hanging out with someone (just a friend) he goes like "Oh so you're telling me that you have a thing with them too?" Does it mean he’s clingy,emotional and needy? First stop all this texting if you two are not in any so called relationship. He's wasting you cell battery and your having to have this pest sending endless text. You need to confront him face to face and say listen we are not together and never will be you need to stop texting me okay. If you don't I have all your text messages and I'll take them to the police and show them your been emotionally abuse & emotionally harassment. File restraining order on you. Right now you and him are in a fake relationship of texting each other with no end in sight and if you don't take care of this problem now it will get out of control. Which it is probably already started... 1
kendahke Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 If a guy constantly texts you like every hour. And when you try to end the convo he always asks if everything is ok and if you leave him on read he gets pissed off and thinks your cutting him out. Last time we got into an argument and than I gave him a response and passed out (fell asleep), he responded to my message and than sends a follow up 20 mins later assuming I was ignoring him and don't want to talk to him anymore. If an argument breaks out he will keep arguing back and forth with long messages (usually guys give a one worded response and disappear until things cool down). Than sends a long apology the next day. And says follow ups like “If you dont want to talk to me anymore i would understand.” And when you go like 6 hours without texting he says “I’ve been waiting all day for you to reply”. If he doesn't respond for a couple of hours he would ALWAYS apologize (which is sweet but at the same time, is it necessary?) For the record we are not in a relationship. Last time I told him I was hanging out with someone (just a friend) he goes like "Oh so you're telling me that you have a thing with them too?" Does it mean he’s clingy,emotional and needy? Ha--let him think whatever he wants to think. You don't owe him anything. You clearly have not gotten things straight with him on how you proceed with communications with friends--since he's not your boyfriend. You need to be a whole lot more blunt with him and not be afraid to actually cut him off and block him if needs be. He's manipulative and I dare say needs a therapist more than he needs a friend or a girlfriend. His behavior is quite unreasonable for an adult. 1
Redhead14 Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Does it mean he’s clingy,emotional and needy? Yep, and controlling and likely abusive in relationships . . . run! 2
Confoosedgal Posted August 28, 2018 Posted August 28, 2018 LEAVE! It will get worse believe me. I have been in my relationship for a year and a half, And my boyfriend is exactly like this!!!! Even though he trusts me And I trust him. He loses his MIND, When I read messages and don't respond for whatever reason. Sometimes I accidentally click the message open but I don't read it, Sometimes I'm driving, or sometimes I fall asleep. He will send 2-3 messages, demanding I respond, Get butt hurt And say something like, "FINE. BYE." Or he will call me and ask where I am. It is insanely needy And obvious insecurity!!! He wasn't like this at the beginning, He just Started Doing it 6 months ago. If this guy is already doing it without the two of you being in a relationship, It will get worse. You will never stop fighting. And the relationship will eventually end, just like ours soon will.
dranoel Posted August 29, 2018 Posted August 29, 2018 Of course he’s clingy. If y’all u don’t like this type of behaviour then cut it off. He’ll only get more intense the more serious the relationship becomes.
Dodgersfan11 Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Oh wow. This guy sounds like me, I'm one of those clingy and needy women. I need a reality check!
I'veseenbetterlol Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 He isn't clingy, he is crazy or will become crazy controlling if you continue to go out w/him. Block him and don't go see him. I dated a guy like this for a short while and I'd never wanted to single so much in my life. 1
LordVader Posted August 30, 2018 Posted August 30, 2018 Yes; yes it does mean exactly that. Emotionally immature and undeveloped and under-developed. Keep doing what you have been doing in this relationship ONLY if, at this stage of your own maturing and developing, you want to become a 'parent' to somebody else. Sounds like what I would do and think just texting a girl. She deleted her FB account before I realized I was just annoying her, or scaring her because I liked her. This is why dating should be outlawed, and sperm/egg samples be taken and combined at hospitals for population renewal.
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