jerrygordon3 Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 (edited) Been dating this girl and she keep fighting. But she’s super hot. She says no porn. It’s like there’s always some problem I need to fix. But she drinks often and when she does she turns into a psychopath. Like she acts stupid, tries to jump out of my car when moving, and talks shut to me. Last night she got on the ole porn subject. I dumped her. Then she says it’s fine and admits she had a bit of a porn thing for awhile. Then goes on to talk about all her amazing sexual experiences with other guys that made her squirt. This is all while drinking. Then she tries to get me to stop the car while I’m driving home cause I slept 3 hours last night.... and she wants to get another drink. And I’ve been telling her I need to get home for hours... well she tries to get me to stop the car by holding the door open of the car with her leg, while I’m driving. I’ve also had 3 drinks, and if a cop sees this, pulls me over.. well, you know the rest. So.. after all this, I pulled over. Threw her [to] the curb and told her I’m driving off without your stuff and you can come with or get your stuff and stay here. I left her in the middle of the road miles from her car. I feel bad. But I also think maybe she’s a huge piece of [crap] and I should never look back. Thoughts? Edited August 23, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Paragraphs and language
BluBell Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 This story sounds like what happens right before the police show up on an episode of Cops. 1
Rockdad Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 I'm not going to criticize you leaving her at the curb. I have never had to try driving with a drunken psych job acting out while I was trying to drive. I will commend you for not letting a pretty face get a pass on awful behavior. If I would you I would distance myself as far as possible from her. Don't try to apologize or attempt to be logical and explain yourself. How can one be logical with the illogical? No telling what she can invent in her head to accuse you of being ticked off for getting dumped out. This girl is going to be nothing but problems.
d0nnivain Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 Dating is about determining whether two people are compatible. Here you clearly don't like decisions & behavior the other does. She doesn't like your porn usage but may be a hypocrite about that. You clearly don't like her drinking & resulting behavior so it's best that you part ways. Not sure why you are worried about her coming back. You dropped her far from your car. In her shoes, I'd never bother about you either so I think you are safe in never looking back. 1
Gaeta Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 Jerrygordon: Now is time to break the cycle of abuse. You do not take her back no matter how bad you feel for leaving her on the side of the road. Normal couples don't fight constantly & they don't call each other names. Don't wait this long to break up with someone that treats you badly. If a woman is rude to you once you drop her. You will never run out of women to date, don't worry.
smackie9 Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 You have better fish to fry, please move on from her. I watch Live PD, I hope I don't see you on there lol.
BaileyB Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 Where do you find these women... and why do you stay through all of this craziness... 2
preraph Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 If she forgets you dumped her from your car and comes back, be sure and tell her, I left you on the curb. Of course, even that won't stop the craziest of them. That jumping out the car stuff, man, that's out of control and crazy and NO one needs that crap. And yes, she's going to get you in trouble with police sometime, and nobody needs that either. Don't feel bad for having enough good sense to know she's out of control and not going to be good for you or anybody. Hope you dodged a bullet and she didn't get pregnant and you be stuck with her for eternity. Don't care how "hot" she is. Hot isn't everything. "Hot mess" is more like it.
bravojohn Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 I wish I had the time to share my full experience with my ex with you. Specifically the drinking and out of control behavior I had to endure. Dude, stay away from that mess. People may say that leaving her next to the road isn't cool, however, I've left my ex stranded as well. Not the most gentlemanly act ever but if I can give you a tip, Don't feel bad for it. She also had a responsibility towards you... It's a two way street. I was tremendously frowned upon when I left my ex stranded, but, noone was there when she lost her marbles and started acting like a complete psycho to the point where she was putting me in danger with the way she was acting. This kinda thing happened regularly on her part. I left her a year ago, after 4 years of that crap. I've never looked back. We did speak recently and guess what, new guy, same problem. I've not looked back once. I'm not by any means saying treat anyone with disrespect or put them in danger deliberately, but, I have learned that respect and dignity deserves respect and dignity.
kendahke Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 Crazy and super hot... what is it about this combination that is so attractive to some men? Ugh! I can't understand loving being constantly off balance with someone unbalanced... because if you weren't getting something out of it, you wouldn't be there.
Ronni_W Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 But I also think maybe she’s a huge piece of [crap] and I should never look back.For a lot of people, yes, that would be the clear solution, and the only viable option/choice. But clearly it has not yet felt to you like YOUR solution. Which would indicate that this situation or "relationship" is no longer at all about her but solely about you. So, you do have to start working on the problem and the solution from within your own self. As someone as already mentioned in this thread. Do you feel responsible for her in any way, or do you feel MORE responsible for your own happiness? Can this particular one help your more or harm you more, in how you can possibly do your own life to generate more love and happiness for yourself, and your friends, and your love ones?
coolheadal Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 (edited) Been dating this girl and she keep fighting. But she’s super hot. She says no porn. It’s like there’s always some problem I need to fix. But she drinks often and when she does she turns into a psychopath. Like she acts stupid, tries to jump out of my car when moving, and talks shut to me. Last night she got on the ole porn subject. I dumped her. Then she says it’s fine and admits she had a bit of a porn thing for awhile. Then goes on to talk about all her amazing sexual experiences with other guys that made her squirt. This is all while drinking. Then she tries to get me to stop the car while I’m driving home cause I slept 3 hours last night.... and she wants to get another drink. And I’ve been telling her I need to get home for hours... well she tries to get me to stop the car by holding the door open of the car with her leg, while I’m driving. I’ve also had 3 drinks, and if a cop sees this, pulls me over.. well, you know the rest. So.. after all this, I pulled over. Threw her [to] the curb and told her I’m driving off without your stuff and you can come with or get your stuff and stay here. I left her in the middle of the road miles from her car. I feel bad. But I also think maybe she’s a huge piece of [crap] and I should never look back. Thoughts? Nothing new here I've been through all what you have describe except for the porn stuff. Drinking drunk women are not pleasant to be with while driving. I had one where I was driving on major interstate road at 80 mph and she had open the windows and stuck out the hotel white towel she had swipe from there. She had scream for help! And tried to jump out while I was driving I had to hold the door close and drive with my left knee wand she use a plastic water bottle hitting me with on my upper arm. This happen in 2016. The end of that was she left me stranded at gas station. She started to yell again for help! Everyone looked at her like she was crazy which she was. I had to call for taxi cost me like $179 to get home. Never again to go through that and she and I are done. So when they try to jump out pull over and let them out. But in my case it was her car. She try to entrap me so if she called the state police they would come after me because it was her car. That's why it was best to keep her seated and find somewhere to drop the car off so she would take her crazy self back to where she lives. I'll take a taxi home. You should have place her on the ground off the road and make sure she was okay before you left her. They can leave you and don't get in trouble. You as a man can get in trouble. Mine was Looney Tunes she was on crack cocaine always screaming at me for all sorts of things. Like I said women like we men don't need it in our lives today or ever! Edited August 23, 2018 by coolheadal
Woggle Posted August 23, 2018 Posted August 23, 2018 Why are you with her? Why do so many men these days just take it when women treat them like this? I just don't get it. Don't you want more out of life than walking on eggshells and twisting yourself into knots trying to please somebody who lives for drama? 1
viatori patuit Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 The discussion about former sexual partners is no bueno. The past stays in the past. The drinking is bad. People who cannot handle drinking suck. The demand for another drink when you need to get home is selfish. Who does that? Three strikes. Dump her.
Highndry Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Sounds like a wonderful Cluster B cocktail. Yikes...
Andy_K Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Crazy and super hot... what is it about this combination that is so attractive to some men? Ugh! I can't understand loving being constantly off balance with someone unbalanced... because if you weren't getting something out of it, you wouldn't be there. Mostly it's the super hot that does it. You can get away with a lot if you're hot enough, and men will put up with it because it's hard to find an equally hot replacement. And since guys will put up with a lot and constantly fawn over girls with that level of looks... many have never really had to learn how to be nice, reasonable human beings. So there's a much higher proportion of emotionally immature (crazy) hot girls than you'll find among normal looking ones. 1
kendahke Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Mostly it's the super hot that does it. You can get away with a lot if you're hot enough, and men will put up with it because it's hard to find an equally hot replacement. And since guys will put up with a lot and constantly fawn over girls with that level of looks... many have never really had to learn how to be nice, reasonable human beings. So there's a much higher proportion of emotionally immature (crazy) hot girls than you'll find among normal looking ones. They'll marry those knowing on their wedding day what a colossal hot mess she is, get messed over/cheated on/money spent to within an inch of their lives, get divorced and then punish every woman he gets involved with because he lets his johnson do his choosing. Smdh. 2
BaileyB Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 They'll marry those knowing on their wedding day what a colossal hot mess she is, get messed over/cheated on/money spent to within an inch of their lives, get divorced and then punish every woman he gets involved with because he lets his johnson do his choosing. Smdh. Indeed. It does make for some fun and interesting reading on LS forums though... 1
mortensorchid Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 She's crazy and hot (or thinks she is). I bet she has a huge pool of friends and acquaintances, and I bet she jumps from bf to bf and goes through people like Kleenex. Because that's what crazy people tend to do. Move on. 2
coolheadal Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 She's crazy and hot (or thinks she is). I bet she has a huge pool of friends and acquaintances, and I bet she jumps from bf to bf and goes through people like Kleenex. Because that's what crazy people tend to do. Move on. I agree 100%! Move on too!
rightondude Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Crazy and super hot... what is it about this combination that is so attractive to some men? the hot crazy hot sex with hot craziness
Redhead14 Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 "Been dating this girl and she keep fighting. But she’s super hot." - Hmmm, let's see, toxic relationship filled with drama but super hot = 24/7 BS for 30 seconds of bliss . . . It's a no brainer if you're thinking with the big head. 2
OatsAndHall Posted August 25, 2018 Posted August 25, 2018 Crazy and super hot... what is it about this combination that is so attractive to some men? Ugh! I can't understand loving being constantly off balance with someone unbalanced... because if you weren't getting something out of it, you wouldn't be there. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt.. In my experience, it's the roller-coaster that kept me with the woman. It's the roller coaster that kept things going.. A nasty fight would break out, I'd feel angry and insecure, we'd reconcile, she'd apologize profusely, we'd have amazing sex, she'd pour it on emotionally and make me feel like "the one". The high points in the relationship were obviously completely insincere but they were amplified by the low points. Couple that with a several plateaus of "normalcy" and it was easy for me to get stuck in a bad relationship. And, honestly, some guys either like or tolerate the drama because the woman is exceptionally attractive. Back to the OP... I suggest you put a lot of distance between yourself and this woman and go completely NC. Nothing good is going to come out of staying in contact with her.
kendahke Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 And, honestly, some guys either like or tolerate the drama because the woman is exceptionally attractive. So it's a pride thing?
fromheart Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Don't drink and drive. You'll end up killing someone and/or yourself. Don't date women who have a drinking issue.
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