I played hard to get and the results paid off tonight!

August 20, 2018

O m G, this woman called me tonight just had called like 49 minutes ago. Told me she was sorry she couldn't call me yesterday saying she had to fold laundry? I am still trying to figure out why she still contacting me. Plus she sounded she was very happy to reach me. I had said you sound happy tonight she said yes. I wasn't going to invite her to my house. But she was going on the major interstate highway and her rule is she doesn't talk, text on the cell while driving. Reason she doesn't want to get into accident. So now heading home she will call me again tonight. Like I had said I did not text, call or anything yesterday to her. Nothing!!!! It's like she's chasing after me now? What you all think I should do?

August 20, 2018

It's like she's chasing after me now? What you all think I should do?

Honestly in the beginning I thought she is looking for you to make the move on her and hit it... now.. I'm sure of it..

But.. dipping your wick might cost you more than you realize since she seems like she isn't good relationship material..

You ready for the ride she is offering ?

August 20, 2018

Honestly in the beginning I thought she is looking for you to make the move on her and hit it... now.. I'm sure of it..

But.. dipping your wick might cost you more than you realize since she seems like she isn't good relationship material..
You ready for the ride she is offering ?

I am wondering what sort of ride it would be? She not all bad, but there is some good inside her. I can't speak for her way of living though? But she just called me right out of getting out work and happy to speak to me. Let say all she did yesterday was to be with her baby girl and do the laundry as she has suggested. Forget to call me up in the process. I keep my cool and didn't call or text. So she had to chase after me. Now what? What does she have planned for me?

August 20, 2018

I've been thinking about this girl and what her intentions would be?

Keep me as option?

Use me for her support?

Was she really into me or what?

Forget about texting her she doesn't text back only saying Hi or Hey?

I've looked at all the text logs it's been short or some long texting.

So what do you all think I should do? She's very active on social media like Facebook. I had asked her some question to why she's acting like she is? What's the point you don't have the time to even come over here after work or meet me somewhere? She could drive home this way but chooses the highway instead. If she calls again after 8:15 pm when she gets off from work I'll see? If not forget this woman. I'll focus on my other woman. But this other woman has some value too. Long haul or not?

August 22, 2018

I wanted to start a new thread because that other thread was more of contacting me out of the blue. Well tonight I got a call at 9:02 pm she wanted to meet me and was very sorry for not showing up those other times. I really wanted to go see her. I grab my clothes and dashed off at high speed. At 9:12 pm I found her at the gas station here in the city. She came out of her suv and gave me such a huge hug.. Can't expect a kiss not yet! LOL I wanted to know where we were going with all of this. I guess I figured it out. I had seen the ring on her married finger.

She said that was just a cheap ring, she not married never was. Then why put up on Facebook you were? She said because it was just for fun. I guess saying you lived in Paris, France too LOL. Boy she was drop dead gorgeous, blond hair.. Oh boy! She couldn't stay too long she had to go pickup her baby girl from her mothers house. Then take her to school early in the morning. Originally she said she could drive to my house, but she wouldn't be able to find it so late at night.

Plus I am not ready to bring here just yet. Tomorrow night if she can get out of work on time we could meet-up again. Not every man gets a second chance out of life and I am wondering what to make of all this. To me it looks like she really likes me. She could tell I really like her by the huge smile on my face.

She doesn't come from online dating, but she came from my prior job training class. Out the 3 women I had spoken to and work in a group task she had peaked my interest. I look for clever, smart and good looking women.

I don't know what to make of all of this? What should I do go for it and just forget her ever coming into my life now.. Please help me!

Edited August 22, 2018 by Williamjacob

August 22, 2018

Does hard to get work with guys? I assumed guys ignoring you were just being jerks, lol. No, seriously...

August 22, 2018

I don't know what to make of all of this?

Well, it seems like she is married. Edited to add... Married, with a child. But, you are attracted to her and you want to sleep with her, so you are willing to overlook that fact. That's what I make of all of this...

Just my opinion, but I would not say that a good woman will not usually go for guys who play hard to get... I would say that we can see the guys who think they are entitled to play games a mile away and we usually avoid them at all costs.

Edited August 22, 2018 by BaileyB

August 22, 2018

She is married!

Stay out of this, this will only end up in heartache!

You look cute enough, you will get another nice looking girl!

Seriously, you will have sex with her

love her

be crazy jealous over her

and in the end, she will say:

bye honey, I am not gonna leave my husband, he is too good for me and I will try to make it work with him.

Then you will go to the other guy forum and complain about how she manipulated you and ruined your life!

So, I am telling you now, it's not worth it!

Leave before you bleed!

Either your heart will bleed or your body because her husband might shoot you!

August 22, 2018

l dunno how racing out the door at 9.12 or whatever it was is playing hard to get with a big grin from ear to ear.

Sorry but it sounds like she just ran outa company to me, so one tiny little call to you after however long and after checking who else was in her phone to call and you came running.

August 22, 2018

Does hard to get work with guys? I assumed guys ignoring you were just being jerks, lol. No, seriously...

A woman doing the 'hard to get' thing doesn't work with me. I'll assume she's entertaining quite a few other dudes along with me. And using some of us for something. If even to relieve some boredom.

Or that her interest is low.

Im either case I'd back off and maybe she'll clear some room in her life for me another time.

But I'll still be dating other women.

August 22, 2018

Well, it seems like she is married. Edited to add... Married, with a child. But, you are attracted to her and you want to sleep with her, so you are willing to overlook that fact. That's what I make of all of this...

Just my opinion, but I would not say that a good woman will not usually go for guys who play hard to get... I would say that we can see the guys who think they are entitled to play games a mile away and we usually avoid them at all costs.

Where it said she was married on her timeline the comments from her gf said girl stop lying. When I reverse the search to the the alleged husband timeline there is no mention of a wedding he did a video the next day no wedding ring. Under status shows in relationship for him. Although when I search for her name under his account it comes up. The only way to solve this is to go to her apartment see if their any wedding photos on the wall. He just had a baby girl, but hers is 6 years old.

This is getting too deep for me, she didn't freak out when I said you have your status as married of last year. She said no that was playing around like also saying she lives in Paris France.

Also everyone here you got me all wrong. I am not after her for sex, or sleeping with her. I like to know her first. To know her first means to make sure what she said so far is the truth!!!!

I had text her two days ago saying how I had felt about all of this. I told her I wasn't after sex or sleeping with her. I wanted to get to know her first. See where she lives go into her life her apartment. Until then no one is coming over to my house.

I been seeing someone and I just not getting anywhere with her. I haven't spoken about that here on LS because just a huge mess. I wanted out of it and she has flown the coop as well, trying her best to get me to take her back.

I think I know why this girl is interested in me because on August 1st I told her I was available. And I would like to see her? I had forget about texting that to her. After deleted my text to her I had stumbled on this. After 3 weeks of finishing the training class at my prior job with her, she makes contact.

Now last night she made contact again, but she was coming out of work and had gone overtime because of the work she does. She called to say she was buying gas and it was last minute, but she could come over my house. I said I could come to you instead since it was late she wouldn't be able to find me. Back and forth on the cell to make sure she was still there. She said she had to go I said I was just pulling into the gas station. She was excited. I might have been excited too. LOL

Right now I got nothing to loose, but just saying that I am not in any hurry to have sex or sleep with her. Maybe down the line but I need to make sure she and I are on the same page. Not telling me a lie about her alleged fake marriage posted on fackbook.

One more thing about the title of this thread, I just didn't want to come off calling or texting her. So I had played it cool. Let her chase me if she was interested in me. It seems she is!

August 22, 2018

Also everyone here you got me all wrong. I am not after her for sex, or sleeping with her. I like to know her first. To know her first means to make sure what she said so far is the truth!!!!

Well done, now if she's definitely hiding something, you just told her how she can manipulate you...

To me there are mature and stable single moms, few in my experience and there's the my kid is an accessory kind of single moms.

With the late call and all the silly marriage and location stuff, she doesn't shine as very mature to me, maybe this is wrong and a fast easy judgement, but don't kid yourself, being with a single mom is much more complex, so I'd be cautious in your shoes.

August 22, 2018

I'm confused. After not bothering with you for 3 weeks, She called you at 9:02. 10 minutes later you met up with her. If that is your idea of hard to get, what does easy & available look like? Here's the thing. If you are hard to get, not playing, but genuinely have other things going on, it's unlikely that you would have been free on 10 minutes notice. Again you are making last minute plans for tomorrow. Sheeesh. You have a lot to learn about being hard to get. She met up with you because you were willing & available. How many people turned her down between 7 & 9 when you finally said yes?

This girl sounds like a head case. She lies about being married & wears a fake ring. That tells me she has poor boundaries & has to hide behind lies because she can't say no. She lies about where she lives. This woman lives in fantasy land; seems like her & reality don't mix.

After causing you to drop everything & rush to her, she then leaves you to go pick up her child. That kid has school in the morning but mommy has her out past 10 pm. Nice.

She's not chasing you. Other than her beauty, I don't see an up side to getting involved with her.

August 22, 2018

You didn't play hard to get. You jumped as soon as she called. What is hard to get about that?

I also don't really see the pay-off here. She sounds...like a teenager living in a fantasy land at best, and a married woman at worst.

August 22, 2018

"Now last night she made contact again, but she was coming out of work and had gone overtime because of the work she does. She called to say she was buying gas and it was last minute, but she could come over my house. I said I could come to you instead since it was late she wouldn't be able to find me. Back and forth on the cell to make sure she was still there. She said she had to go I said I was just pulling into the gas station."

This is odd. She said she could come over to your house and then 10 minutes later said she had to leave when she knew you were on your way? So 10 minutes before, she had time to come over to your house and then suddenly had to leave while you are trying to meet up with her?

If she is really single and had time to meet up, that wouldn't change in 10 minutes. She'd meet you at a bar or after the gas station go somewhere to hang out a bit. Sounds like the games of a married woman...like she went out and then her husband called to see where she was while you were on your way. Working late = no good excuses to leave the house.

I would proceed with the assumption she is in fact married.

August 22, 2018

She works for a major software/hardware technical support so she's on the phones from 11:30 am to 8:15 pm. If customer is still on the phone past 8:15 pm she has to stay on the call until she's down for the night. In the morning she takes her 6 year old to pre-school which is 20 minutes from her house. The rest her mother does for her pickup the grand kids at 3:00 pm and watches here until 9 to 10 pm. She goes and picks up year 6 year old from her mothers and then takes her home.

I am going with the premise she's single not married and lives on her own since November 2017 she was still living in and with her parents. She got her own apartment. That's all I know. I still don't get why she has on face book a fake marriage. On the guy she alleged married to the date of the so called married he was out of town working he's some sort of photographer taking pictures of model and such. Next day he shoots a work video.

What I had learn from her is that he was jerk an she was done with him. But I'll learn more when I can really sit down and talk her. I don't like to be rush like this.

Why can't I go and see her I like to know and see if she's really into me or just a passing phase.

What I had admired about her was she was smart, clever able to handle customers on the phone with grace, politeness and professionalism. Plus she was like me a technical person. And she's drop dead gorgeous.

She has OCD and I don't mine that at all I might have that as well. Right now this is the early stages. She's a single mother with a child. Her work schedule and raising a kid on her own it complex I do agree with some here about that. But I am willing to get it a try.

I am single and I don't have any kids yet myself. But I am great with kids her daughter ages. I've dated single mothers before with child. If she's stable single mother then there is a chance it will work out.

About last night sure she called me at the last minute, it was late, but she remembered I was only 4 miles from her work. Traffic was heavy but I had managed to get there in 10 minutes. Listen this time it was her he did the calling and not me asking to see her. Let her call and ask. I do want to pressure her.

I hope this clears up everything.. I know she did called me back at 11:30 pm but I had fallen asleep. She doesn't like to talk on cell or text on cell while driving. She want to pay attention to the road and that would distract her from driving and cause an accident she said.

She's interested in me.

I am interested in her

Not rushing into any sex or living , sleeping together.

The rest I'll share with all as it happens.. Thanks for your help so far.

August 22, 2018

any game playing is going to result in messiness

August 22, 2018

She's interested in me.
I am interested in her
Not rushing into any sex or living , sleeping together.

Just be careful.

August 22, 2018

I still don't get why she has on face book a fake marriage. On the guy she alleged married to the date of the so called married he was out of town working he's some sort of photographer taking pictures of model and such. Next day he shoots a work video.

What I had learn from her is that he was jerk an she was done with him. But I'll learn more when I can really sit down and talk her. I don't like to be rush like this.

There is a significant difference between not rushing things, and knowing if the person you are communicating with is full of horse manure and not even single.

You are saying this is was a pretend marriage, so who exactly is the jerk that she's done with? An ex-boyfriend?

She makes no sense.

Edited August 22, 2018 by ExpatInItaly

August 22, 2018

I've just spoken to her on cell after she text me a Hey message. 11:15 am. So we have made plans to meetup at McDonald parking lot after work. She's going to get to transfer longer calls to Tier2 support. This way she can spend a bit more time with me before heading to pickup her 6 year old daughter from her parents house.

I'll going to ask her questions so I can see where things are headed. It's 11:30 am she at work now.

I know you all are concern for me and I do appreciate it. I hope she is who she said she is single mother, not with anyone, not seeing anyone either. She was just staying focus on her college, work and her daughter. Then she met me at training class. It wasn't until the second week of training class they had switched everyone around that was quiet. I am not quiet I am a talker. But I know when to talk and when not to talk. She wasn't right next to me there was another girl who was also a single mother too. Not my type though. She move her seat to the back and then I met this girl who all of this is about now.

Later tonight I'll see and know more about all the questions you have asked me and I'll get them answered!! I guess this would be preview date #1.

August 22, 2018

Does it concern you that she is only willing to meet you in gas station and McDonalds parking lots... Don’t you think there is a reason for that?

As to where this is headed... where do you think it can go? What’s next, Walmart parking lots, liquor store parking lots...

Lots of red flags here OP. I feel like you are missing them all...

August 22, 2018

nice guys finish last

August 22, 2018

Does it concern you that she is only willing to meet you in gas station and McDonalds parking lots... Don’t you think there is a reason for that?

As to where this is headed... where do you think it can go? What’s next, Walmart parking lots, liquor store parking lots...

Lots of red flags here OP. I feel like you are missing them all...

I suggested McDonald's parking lot over the gas station. Where do you want me to take her to my house? No not yet. Too soon for that to happen. She should invite me to her apartment when the time is right. She only met me at the gas station because that's where she was at. She works right around there. She wanted to see me so that's where we met. Just don't have enough time she has a 6 year old that has to be picked up from her parents house that's 30 miles from her job. She's only like 21 miles from my house that's estimate. Last night she wanted to drive to my house, no that's way too soon. I quickly too over and said where are you at she said BP gas station. I said okay I'll be there in 10 mins.

Let this progress first I am not spending lot of money on anyone I need to get to know her first. No I am not cheap I am smart and clever. I don't consider I am too nice but bit more assertive. I like to take charge but also listen to suggestions as well. I have manners as well as being well groomed.

Oh yes she doesn't like to be given flowers, less to think about. I don't know what type of men in general she's been around so I should beware those jerks and those that want sex off the bat too. She doesn't strike me as being that sort of woman. I hope to learn more tonight about her.. I had removed my back seats as my suv can become cargo van. Best I put those back in LOL. Only kidding. I want things to go smoothly.

That last comment not with this dude! I will be ahead of the task in hand!

Edited August 22, 2018 by Williamjacob

August 22, 2018

What's with the parking lots?

Why can't you ask her for a real date?

August 22, 2018

What's with the parking lots?

Why can't you ask her for a real date?

It's because it's easier to clean and dispose of the corpse there

OP there's no investment from her and she seems pretty immature, don't know why you're avoiding to see all the red flags, are you this needy !?

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