Beachgrl486 Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 Ok, this is a little awkward and hard. My ex and I have been broken up a little while now and everything and he has moved on and started dating again and I kind of have but it just seemed easier for him to do. If yall have read my previous posts you will know the whole story. Well it has been hard getting over him and tonight I was watching tv and this commercial came on for a local restaraunt and him and his girlfriend were in it and they filmed them eating together and I saw her for the first time. It really bothered me. She was pretty and it bothered me sooo much. I just wanted to write this out and see if anyone had anything to share about it. One more thing. When we were together he always told me when we first started dating that he had a really bad temper and stuff and I was always like ok. Well he does. He gets mad sometimes and would say mean thing and stuff and he was kind of munipulative. Like I would go out and he would ignore me for a day or so saying he was busy or something. I talked to him about a month ago and he said him and is girlfriend are doing well and stuff and ofcourse it bothered me. I was like...Does he not do the same things with her? I always wonder if they have this wonderful relationship or if he gives her the same crap he gave me. If he gets the attitude and stuff with here. Do you think people change or something? She is around his age I was am a little younger...I do not know if that matters. I think people are who they are. I just would like some input here.
Art_Critic Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 I saw her for the first time. It really bothered me. She was pretty and it bothered me sooo much. Isn't tv suppose to put 10 pounds on a person ?? People alway's look better on tv .. If you saw her in real life she would look haggered. you shouldn't worry yourself about their relationship .. have one of your own and worry about that one. If things are meant to be they will be
Cupcake Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 It's terrible that you had that actually see the new GF. I always hate that. Unfortunately, there really isn't an easy way to deal with what you are feeling right now. I've been there, trust me!! In a way, you are comparing yourself to the new GF. Those thoughts lead you to think your XBF is some type of prize that you obviously lost. You wonder if he treats her better than he treated you because if he does, that will mean that something was wrong with you. And of course if he treats her the same, or worse, then you realize that he was the problem all along. Nobody ever wants to know that their terrible X's have changed and treat their new lovers better. It always sucks, no matter what the situation. Somehow, you should find a way to stop thinking of your XBF as a prize that you lost. Think of yourself as the prize that he lost, especially if the break up was his fault. I dealt with my feelings by focusing on all the bad things about my XBF. It took a long time for me. But I eventually reached a point where I no longer cared if he had changed or not. All I remember is that we had more bad times than good ones. He wasn't the right person for me at that time. Since I haven't communicated with him and don't know anything about him now, I assume that his is still an a$$ hole. If he's not, that's good for whomever he's dating because I went through so much pain with my XBF, I wouldn't wish that kind of heartache on anyone else. Sorry for the long response, but it takes time for this type of thinking to emerge. You will reach a point where you don't want, or need him anymore. Trust me, love will make you feel better. Eventually, you will fall in love again. I really believe that new love is the only thing to cure a broken heart. It doesn't matter if it's new love for yourself, a pet, family, a hobby, or whatever. Just love and be happy.
Kitteney Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 are you sure it was his new girlfriend in the commercial? i have to ask because i had a friend who worked for a tv station and they needed a man and a woman to play husband and wife to give a "testimonial" that would be an ad for a bankruptcy attorney. i was the woman in that ad and let me tell you, after a while people were recognizing me and wondering how my husband and i were doing.
smile95 Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 No doubt after the newness wears off.....he will treat her the same way he treated you. Someone told me that "he will never treat anyone else better than he treated you".
Author Beachgrl486 Posted September 7, 2005 Author Posted September 7, 2005 thanks guys. You make me feel much better. Yea I am sure it was her though.
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