No confirmation

[guest569]

In my youth, I would have probably confirmed with a phone call the day before, as this was a pre-cell phone era. Now, I would expect a text only if the person was going to cancel.

 

Like other posters, I put my appointments in my computer with a reminder. I always get excited about a new dating opportunity, so I know I would have shown up to meet someone new. It's exciting meeting someone new!! I look forward to hearing unique and different life experiences, stories and adventures they had been on.

 

About 15 years ago, I was dating someone new and I showed up at her apartment for our Friday night date and she had forgotten. She had a hard day at work, came home, microwaved something for dinner and was in her sweat pants watching TV. To salvage the date, I suggested we go out for ice cream instead of dinner, as she had already eaten. She quickly changed, put on some makeup and out the door we went. We still had a great time. I think any date can be salvaged and made into a nice time, as long as both parties are willing to try.

 

That's really sweet. Nice to hear a more positive and forgiving stance. I think that many are bitter and easily discard people and should take a break from dating. It should be fun.

[PRW]

About 15 years ago, I was dating someone new and I showed up at her apartment for our Friday night date and she had forgotten. She had a hard day at work, came home, microwaved something for dinner and was in her sweat pants watching TV. To salvage the date, I suggested we go out for ice cream instead of dinner, as she had already eaten. She quickly changed, put on some makeup and out the door we went. We still had a great time. I think any date can be salvaged and made into a nice time, as long as both parties are willing to try.

I can see that happening. But it still shows that you weren't in the forefront of their mind or they wouldn't have forgotten no matter what their day is like. The worse my day is the more I look forward to the date to be able to get away from the stress of work and have a good time with someone. You might salvage the one date, but still have issues later in the long term.

[coolheadal]

I had one recently where I did send a confirmation text the day of the appointment. It read "Are we still on for this evening? If I don't hear anything from you I will assume no". He did respond and we had an OLD and it was ... Lousy to say the least, but I think this has to do with his weakness not mine.

 

I am a fact driven person, I keep schedules and I make sure appointments are met no matter what. If I say I will be there, I will be there. When people do not take these initiatives or say "Whatever you want, I have no preference, etc." that shows they are not very respectful of others.

 

That is how is should be...

 

Negative and they don't care would say

 

Whatever you want!

I have no preference etc..

 

 

But always confirm with cell call. Don't rely on just text.

[Versacehottie]

That's really sweet. Nice to hear a more positive and forgiving stance. I think that many are bitter and easily discard people and should take a break from dating. It should be fun.

 

Yeah, agree. and feel like this has been suggested to OP several times. I wholeheartedly believe that a lot of her "negative" experiences are brought on by the fact that she believes she will have a negative experience. it starts the chain of events happening....rather than believing she will have a good experience which would put her in the mindset to give the benefit of the doubt and "meet the other person halfway".

 

Not to sound hippie-dippie but OP could definitely have more gratitude in life and might find some of the results she seeks or at least some enjoyment. Even when you participate in her threads, she rarely thanks for the input, just wants to complain. Sorry, if it's an observation that OP doesn't take kindly to.

 

for the record, also the fairer sex chiming in and NOT agreeing with OP's actions in this case. not always in a hurry to just on these threads because you can only give the same advice so many times. Self-sabotage for sure.

[Malin889]

You should have reached out if you were too tired and decided not to go. I've had a couple online dating dates cancel at the day of, and while it's upsetting and frustrating, at least they cancelled ahead of time and didn't just not show up. That would just be embarrassing to the person who did show up, know what I mean?

[OatsAndHall]

I always shoot off a simple confirmation text: "I'm looking forward to meeting you! I hope you're having a good day. -insert emoji-".

 

 

 

If I don't get receive a text back, I still show up and but I only wait five-ten minutes and then I leave. I dated a woman for six-seven months that was awful at returning texts but she always showed up so I take my cue from that experience.

[MidwestUSA]

Yeah, agree. and feel like this has been suggested to OP several times. I wholeheartedly believe that a lot of her "negative" experiences are brought on by the fact that she believes she will have a negative experience. it starts the chain of events happening....rather than believing she will have a good experience which would put her in the mindset to give the benefit of the doubt and "meet the other person halfway".

 

Not to sound hippie-dippie but OP could definitely have more gratitude in life and might find some of the results she seeks or at least some enjoyment. Even when you participate in her threads, she rarely thanks for the input, just wants to complain. Sorry, if it's an observation that OP doesn't take kindly to.

 

for the record, also the fairer sex chiming in and NOT agreeing with OP's actions in this case. not always in a hurry to just on these threads because you can only give the same advice so many times. Self-sabotage for sure.

 

 

A more than fair and valid observation! Can you say 'her own worst enemy'?

Edited August 26, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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