Léon Uris Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Here's my weird story : Saw a girl on Tinder. Liked her profile and moved on. One month later she liked me and replied back. That was in July. We started txting back and forth. We wrote fabulous lines to each other. Then we finally met. I travel a lot for work so our "date" got pushed to later. 1st date was good. We met, had a few drinks, a few hugs, a few hand squeeze. 2nd date was 3 days after. She invited me over to her place. I brought flowers, food & wine. We spent most of the night talking (We talked a lot. Family, friends, experience, life, etc....), listening to music then snuggled. She let me hold her hands and kiss her on the cheeks. She did say "not yet" when I asked her permission to ravish her lips. I left at 9 next morning. No sex. Just snuggling. Notes about her : - She works on projects and is super busy 90% of the time. - She has not dated anyone for a long time. - She's like super intelligent. - Self made woman. Tough Cookie. - She hates disloyalty. - She's born in January and is 31 this year. - She's mature and knows what she wants. She's down to earth, sure about herself & ambitious. - She's ticklish. (Maybe its a defense mechanism) - She is gorgeous, dirty blonde hair with light grey eyes and a smile to die for. Her eyes are very expressive and full of life. - She's very family oriented. She keeps in touch with her mom & dad. Notes about me : - I am brown dynamite !! - I am outgoing, fun and weird. A bit like deadpool but less vulgar/abrasive. - Patient and Intelligent. - Determined, cunning, and a troubleshooter. Am 34 this year. - i travel to war torn countries for work. - Physically i look like a merc/marine. - Have not dated for 5 years. Notes about the dates : - For the first date, i got her natural oils/fragrances which she likes. We had a drink and talked a bit. She later txted me and said that it was a bit overwhelming for her. She's not used to this. And she feels a bit shy too. - During the second date she told me a few things : 1. It was actually her friend P who liked me on tinder in her stead. 2. Then her other friend H texted me on her number maintaining the "contact" all the time i was travelling. She also txted me but simpler things, no poetry. - She asked me if this changed anything. I said no as i like her and i am thankful to her friends that they did this. - She did not txt me since the 2nd date. That is since Saturday. - I called her today just to have a brief chat with her. She told me that over the weekend there was a death in her family. I just offered her my condolences and told her that am here for her. And txted her the words i said. And now ladies and gents : 1. What do i do ? 2. How do i proceed for the next step ? I considered befriending her 2 friends, P & H as they look like good people plus it would not hurt to have them on my side. Please assist !!!!
ExpatInItaly Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 1. It was actually her friend P who liked me on tinder in her stead. 2. Then her other friend H texted me on her number maintaining the "contact" all the time i was travelling. She also txted me but simpler things, no poetry. This is just...weird. And I think it's not true. Unfortunately, I think this is her way of letting you down, as it shifts responsibility to her "friends" for starting this, not her. I considered befriending her 2 friends, P & H as they look like good people plus it would not hurt to have them on my side. Do not do this. You don't know these people, and I said above, I highly doubt her story is true. She already mentioned she's feeling a bit overwhelmed, so trying to reach out to her friends you've never met is not a good move - especially in the wake of a family tragedy. You seem like a kind man with good intentions, but I have a feeling she's not as interested as you. In any case, you have already told her to get in touch if she wants. Leave it at that. You will find out in the coming days if she wants to keep communicating.
Gaeta Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Sounds like her friends are more interested in matching her up than she is. They probably created the Tinder profile, maintained it, communicated with guys and finally pressured her into meeting you. I think she is not interested in dating, she is not ready. You ended up with those 2 dates because of her friends and now she is withdrawing herself. Do nothing, keep searching and meeting others, do not befriend her friends that is the worse Idea ever. It would feel like you're gangning up against her. .
Author Léon Uris Posted August 24, 2018 Author Posted August 24, 2018 Ok. But what is wrong with People nowadays ??? Why not just be upfront about it and speak the truth and avoid all the aggravation ? I do not not have a lot of expectations. Just be a decent human beings and say the truth. This is screwed up. And thank you for responding to my messages. Have a nice day.
coolheadal Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Here's my weird story : Saw a girl on Tinder. Liked her profile and moved on. One month later she liked me and replied back. That was in July. We started txting back and forth. We wrote fabulous lines to each other. Then we finally met. I travel a lot for work so our "date" got pushed to later. 1st date was good. We met, had a few drinks, a few hugs, a few hand squeeze. 2nd date was 3 days after. She invited me over to her place. I brought flowers, food & wine. We spent most of the night talking (We talked a lot. Family, friends, experience, life, etc....), listening to music then snuggled. She let me hold her hands and kiss her on the cheeks. She did say "not yet" when I asked her permission to ravish her lips. I left at 9 next morning. No sex. Just snuggling. Notes about her : - She works on projects and is super busy 90% of the time. - She has not dated anyone for a long time. - She's like super intelligent. - Self made woman. Tough Cookie. - She hates disloyalty. - She's born in January and is 31 this year. - She's mature and knows what she wants. She's down to earth, sure about herself & ambitious. - She's ticklish. (Maybe its a defense mechanism) - She is gorgeous, dirty blonde hair with light grey eyes and a smile to die for. Her eyes are very expressive and full of life. - She's very family oriented. She keeps in touch with her mom & dad. Notes about me : - I am brown dynamite !! - I am outgoing, fun and weird. A bit like deadpool but less vulgar/abrasive. - Patient and Intelligent. - Determined, cunning, and a troubleshooter. Am 34 this year. - i travel to war torn countries for work. - Physically i look like a merc/marine. - Have not dated for 5 years. Notes about the dates : - For the first date, i got her natural oils/fragrances which she likes. We had a drink and talked a bit. She later txted me and said that it was a bit overwhelming for her. She's not used to this. And she feels a bit shy too. - During the second date she told me a few things : 1. It was actually her friend P who liked me on tinder in her stead. 2. Then her other friend H texted me on her number maintaining the "contact" all the time i was travelling. She also txted me but simpler things, no poetry. - She asked me if this changed anything. I said no as i like her and i am thankful to her friends that they did this. - She did not txt me since the 2nd date. That is since Saturday. - I called her today just to have a brief chat with her. She told me that over the weekend there was a death in her family. I just offered her my condolences and told her that am here for her. And txted her the words i said. And now ladies and gents : 1. What do i do ? 2. How do i proceed for the next step ? I considered befriending her 2 friends, P & H as they look like good people plus it would not hurt to have them on my side. Please assist !!!! Only thing good here is the outline you posted here about her and you. This will never work out as you already have guessed. Just think of it as a passing phased. She's a controller your more entertainer. But her option is not you. She told you the dreaded death in the family to get you off her back and leave her alone. Get the hint and move on now. Tinder is just for fun and not a serious way to really meet someone. Your going by looks and not for who they are inside. Come man you must get that by now. She been on dates don't you ever think she's not. Your to eager to want to be with this super hot business chick. She's not interested in you. Your just another option to her. She tried you out and now has dump you.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24, 2018 Posted August 24, 2018 Ok. But what is wrong with People nowadays ??? Why not just be upfront about it and speak the truth and avoid all the aggravation ? I do not not have a lot of expectations. Just be a decent human beings and say the truth. This is screwed up. And thank you for responding to my messages. Have a nice day. Unfortunately, most people don't have the heart to directly tell someone they're not interested. It sounds as though this woman would have an especially hard time doing so, if she's hiding behind her friends just to set her up on a date. It's not the most mature or respectful, but it happens all the time in the dating world. You gave it your best shot. I would leave it now, so you can find a woman who's equally as interested in you.
Author Léon Uris Posted August 26, 2018 Author Posted August 26, 2018 She txted me tonight !!! She's been super busy and had to take over the whole section as the new boss now. Problem is i am flying out on Wednesday and will be gone for a long time. So with her being busy and not really a "txting" person and me far far away for serious family matters, things will cool down.
Desesperado Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 What sexy 31yo woman needs friends to text guys and maintain a tinder account !? If that's true it's likely with your description, she's one of these my career defines me and I have no time for other people, it's my way or the highway kind. If not and she needs to invent all this and the family death, to try and push you away, she's just pretty immature. Maybe next time a woman invites you over, don't go crazy bringing wine gifts and food, just wine is fine, I have a feeling she wanted to get down, but seeing all your investment, she just didn't because she doesn't want to date. Move on man !
Logo Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 Maybe next time a woman invites you over, don't go crazy bringing wine gifts and food, just wine is fine, I have a feeling she wanted to get down, but seeing all your investment, she just didn't because she doesn't want to date. Move on man ! Or just bring some seltzer water and saltine crackers and ask her if you can put them on her nightstand.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 She txted me tonight !!! She's been super busy and had to take over the whole section as the new boss now. Problem is i am flying out on Wednesday and will be gone for a long time. So with her being busy and not really a "txting" person and me far far away for serious family matters, things will cool down. I don't want to be a wet blanket, but I would not pin much hope on that one, OP. Even very busy people find time for the people they want to talk to. It takes only a few seconds to write a message. I think it's probably better to let this one go, especially if you're going away for a long time.
Author Léon Uris Posted August 27, 2018 Author Posted August 27, 2018 Oh well. Its just some money and time lost. There's literally nothing to do where i am. I'll hang out with my usual crowd It's my way of doing things. Full on. The thrill is in the chase. Else it's like taking home cows. What's the use of that ? I like a fighting girl. I like seeing what works and what does not work. Then take her down. Thanks for all your replies.
ExpatInItaly Posted August 27, 2018 Posted August 27, 2018 It's my way of doing things. Full on. The thrill is in the chase. Else it's like taking home cows. What's the use of that ? I like a fighting girl. I like seeing what works and what does not work. Then take her down. The heck does this mean?
Author Léon Uris Posted August 27, 2018 Author Posted August 27, 2018 I'll try different approaches and strategies to see what works with her. The more resistant the girl is, the more creative i get. Nothing violent. Just romancing her. In the end i'll get the girl. If not, i'll persevere until i see someone new. Then i'll shift targets. My apologies for the way i wrote.
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