He called my bestfriend to "check on me"

[upsetnhurt]

I figured Sundrop...just wanted to hear you say it as I think you were attempting to give the impression that you are over him. Glad you are starting to see that he is not everything you have dreamt him up to be and honestly I am sure there are lots more traits about him that you probably won't like. He left you didn't he and hurt you.....that is the worst trait of all.

Considering your feelings now....I would recommend that you not call him and curse him out and just take the call for what it is worth (he cares yet does not care enough to call you and talk about it). I thought you mentioned you friend told him never to call her again............how long did that last and why did she answer the phone....she is just as guilty as him at this point.

Everytime you think of calling just know that you are pushing him farther away and in reality do you really want someone back that you have to go and manipulate to come back to you. If he can not see your worth without having you call.....then you better get used to the idea that he is not the one for you. As always, remain strong and good luck.

[sundrop]

I actually walked out on him, hoping at somepoint that we would end up together. We had a really good relationship, the best I had ever had with someone, but he wouldn't take that last step and I wnated to marry him, and it was killing me that he didn't want the same. So I left hoping he would miss me and come back at some point.

But now I know the type of people he is hanging around with, and I left that life style years ago. My friend told him if he was smart he would do the same. I guess that's why I am so disappointed in him, if he chooses to embrace those people and that type of lifesytle than I feel sorry for him and don't want to get back into that.

I know if I call him, it would do no good.

I am just trying to understand.

[upsetnhurt]

Stay strong Sundrop. I am in the same position yet my ex gf was the one to want to remain in that lifestyle as well. I have come to the realization that they won't change...at least not in time that it will benefit us. Going out and meeting people and giving them a chance is my new battle as i am constantly thinking of her. Makes me sad most times yet I always put a smile on my face to others.

[sundrop]

I called my friend this morning to tell her, If he calls her back I don't wont to know about it. It's just making me upset and not able to move past this point. So she agreed.

I had calmed down yesterday and then found out he had called her last nght and got wound up again. So This morning when I woke up I decided I didnt want to deal with it anymore and she said I was making a good decision and she doesn't think he will call her back anymore.

 

Her take on it is: that she feels he is trying not to face his own issues and focus on someone elses, and trying to find something bad on me so he doesnt feel guilty that he wasn't able to commit to me?

What does anyone think about this?

[NotSignedIn]

Just tell him to leave you alone and he is making himself look like an A$$.

[RecordProducer]

She doesnt want him back anymore.

 

I find it hard to believe!

[sundrop]

The other week I had sent in a application to the TV show Over Haulin, where they take a car in need of repairs and really fix it up for a person. So I filled out the application and had to take pictures of my ex's car, I had to wait for them to be delevloped before I could turn the whole thing in, and today I got the pictures back. I just tore up the application.

I thought I would feel better but I don't... Just sad

But I'm not breaking this time. Like all the last times, all this lately has really hurt my feelings.

[Art_Critic]

But I'm not breaking this time.

 

Good .. It's the best way

[sundrop]

I just talked to a friend of mine who I haven't talked to in a while and explained the situation to her. Her thought is that he is trying to justify to himself that the break up was a good idea and a reason not to try to work things out.