Lostsoul1982 Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Hi guys, Me and.my ex girlfriend (me 35, her 41) have been broken up for nearly 3 weeks now, did not contact, but did a dumb thing and tried to reach out to her, as I still love her very much and would take her back in a heartbeat. She has blocked me from all social media and cell phone, We were together for a year and a half, the first year was amazing, hardly fought, talked about marriage, the whole works. Beginning of this year thing's changed, we argued allot didn't communicate well, and she also lost her father this year too, which I was by herside for support and there for her. After I last big argument she said she's done, and now I'm blocked on everything I still feel like I haven't got closure and pains me I can't get hold of her. Advice what to do from here? Finding hard to accept and just move on, does she hate me that much to block me from every type of device? Is it her way of moving on? Hope this all makes sense, so heartbroken
PegNosePete Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 If she talked to you then what do you expect her to say? She's said it all already: she's done. Now she is moving on with her life and you are no longer a part of that. She has blocked you because she doesn't want constant updates of your status, she doesn't want you drunk-texting her at 4am, she doesn't want to see your new GF on facebook (or you to see her new BF either). It doesn't mean she hates you (but even if she did what difference would it make?), but it means she doesn't want to communicate with you any more. What you should do? Block her back. Not out of revenge, but so you're not tempted to keep checking up on her. Because checking up on her will hold you back. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 What were all the arguments about? She clearly does not want to continue to rehash this. I doubt she hates you, but she is evidently very frustrated. There's not a lot you can do but process the break-up and realize she can't give you more closure than she already has. What more do you want to tell her, or for her to say that she hasn't already said?
fromheart Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Its a tough one, but you must continue with complete NC. Reaching out to a woman who has dumped you will suggest to her that you are weak. Always go NC out of respect to your self. Show love and self respect to yourself first and foremost.
MountainGirl111 Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Different ways to look at this friend. If she continued to have contact with you but didn't really want to get back with you you'd likely feel she was giving you bread crumbs and stringing you along...which, in the long run would be worse for you, your heart, your psyche. Dumpers sometimes want to be "kind" to those they've dumped. But if you end up feeling strung along that's actually less kind. It's actually better to make a clean break....why? Because it's then you truly start in a whole new direction...life is FULL of possibilities!! I believe that! If you end up with a hang up over an old flame you won't be able to embrace the possibilities. In order to embrace something new you need to let go of the old and that requires a turning point of great magnitude sometimes. 1
preraph Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 She didn't say what you wanted to hear. She didn't have second thought, so she's not going to say what you want to hear. She's done. Part of being an adult is realizing we have to just move on and can't control other people. Granted, with parents so rarely teaching their kids they can't have everything they want these days, it comes as a shock to many.
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