Author noknow Posted August 26, 2018 Author Posted August 26, 2018 The above advice is still valid, it's easy in a way for her to tell you this and have you as a friend when you in fact like her, have a backbone and boundaries, do not put yourself in this situation, tell her sorry you understand and respect she's not ready, but you aren't going to pretend being friends because you want to date her and so you'll stop interacting so much, because it's not fair for you to have ice cream under you nose and never getting any. This however, will not likely give you chances if the woman isn't ready, that's another matter but at least you won't be this boring guy friend to all women anymore. Should I stop interacting with her completely? My gut says yes. This woman told you unequivocally that she does not want to date you. You concede that there was nothing ambiguous about her rejection of you. Her stated reason -- not being over her EX -- is a white lie. If she was into you, her recent break up would not be an obstacle. You are squarely in the friendzone. She said that she has a history of rebounding and is seeing a counselor. I could confirm this from her friend. But lets also assume that she is lying. If she was into me like you are saying, then she have no problem dating me. So she just may have not been into me completely, and just enjoyed the attention. In both cases, it seems like things were not going further no matter what, there was nothing I could've done. For you to continue this touching business -- keno-- with an eye toward grooming her for a more physical / sexual relationship strikes me as something a predator would do so that his victim was more compliant. The whole concept skives me out & makes you look like a creepy pervert. I'm not saying you have improper motives; I am merely giving you my impression of this behavior & your ill conceived plan. How will you get a confidence boost by basically molesting / assaulting (unwanted touching is a crime no matter how "innocent") someone? Yuck. Just don't. I think your view is on the extreme side. On a practical level, I don't think touching a women's elbow will get a molestation/assault charge. I've never heard of this happening.Nor is on the same level at all. I view kino as part of the escalation path and to gauge whether someone is interested. If the person doesn't seem receptive, or they say 'dont touch me' then yes it should be stopped. But if there is no opposition why stop? So in my case, since she is not interested I have to stop. Doesn't mean I won't stop trying it to other girls I meet.
d0nnivain Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 I don't have a problem with casual touching. I have a problem with this step by step plan business. If's it's natural & organic fine. Humans are pack animals & touch is important. To do so because you are following kino sounds contrived, creepy & predatory.
Desesperado Posted August 26, 2018 Posted August 26, 2018 Should I stop interacting with her completely? My gut says yes. She wants to have you as a friend, even If I think she knows you like her, so if I'm not wrong it's selfish on her part. Even if I'm wrong, why would you pretend not to like her and be friends ? What's in it for you ? You need to be friends with everyone ? So yes you go no contact, block her and just stay cool and say hi if you run into her keep it short.
Author noknow Posted August 26, 2018 Author Posted August 26, 2018 I don't have a problem with casual touching. I have a problem with this step by step plan business. If's it's natural & organic fine. Humans are pack animals & touch is important. To do so because you are following kino sounds contrived, creepy & predatory. Well, where I'm coming from is that I'm a person that has little experience with women. Getting better and reading signals and showing my interest. Showing physical interest is something that is rather new and unintuitive to me. I'm using kino as a guide/framework. To feel more comfortable and better show my interests. It already has made me feel more comfortable. She wants to have you as a friend, even If I think she knows you like her, so if I'm not wrong it's selfish on her part. Even if I'm wrong, why would you pretend not to like her and be friends ? What's in it for you ? You need to be friends with everyone ? So yes you go no contact, block her and just stay cool and say hi if you run into her keep it short. No I don't need to be friends with everyone. I would like to date her only. I see.
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