hansen Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 A little background on me. I live in a medium (80k) Midwest town. I grew up about an hour away in the middle of nowhere. I went to medical school and residency in large metropolitan areas (Milwaukee WI, and NYC). I moved back to my nearest city to be close to family. I never expected to move back but when my father passed in my 3rd year of residency it really hit me. I really needed to be close to family I’m 31 now and have been back (and a practicing Emergency Physician) for about a year and a half. I have dates here and there up until now but nothing became really serious. I haven’t really been bothered by that because I went through my training and realized or accepted that I seemed to dedicate my time towards my future rather than the present. Always figured when I was “done” I could think about it. Now that I have completed training I have really tried to get out there. I have went on a couple dates. One girl I went on a few dates with. She was nice and we got along. Texts, calls, and getting together when we could. I usually paid for the bulk of it (she was a secretary at the hospital I worked at). Eventually I grasped her hand. She told me she just wanted to keep being friends. Sorry but I don’t usually pay for everything with friends. The next girl had two kids. Thought we got a long really well. She was 32 and had previously been married. I work nights (we get paid a lot more for them and I have student loans). When I couldn’t make a function at 8 am when I worked the night before she cut it off. I am getting a little hopeless. I seem to meet people that either look at me as a paycheck or don’t want to deal with the flipping schedule that I have. I’ve tried online dating but in a town this size it’s dismal. I’ve thought about moving to a bigger city but the entire reason I moved here was to be with family. The nearest large metro is 2.5 hours away. In some ways I feel if I don’t move I will forever be single. I just do not know what to do.
nospam99 Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 To me, 80k is HUGE. The four nearest cities to me (with a 30 minute drive to the farthest) combined barely make 80k. Not that I'd call myself a 'success', but I am at least meeting women. Exactly what online dating have you tried? I have found a large difference among the various OLD sites and ONLY recommend POF and Match. Also try speed-dating. At least where I live there is either a 20s-30s or a 30s-40s speed-dating event more than once a month.
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