hot_to_trot Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 I had an ex tell me, "you are the one I want to marry, but not the person I want to be with right now". What is your interpretation of this? We dated for 3 and a half years, and were eachothers first loves. I've been playing that statement over and over in my head. Am I not good enough to be with now??? It seems like a very passive-aggressive thing to say. Has anyone experienced this kind of a feeling? Has anyone been on the receiving end of a statment like this?
bluechocolate Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 "you are the one I want to marry, but not the person I want to be with right now". What is your interpretation of this? I don't want to go out with you any more & I don't want to feel guilty about your hurt feelings.
RecordProducer Posted September 6, 2005 Posted September 6, 2005 It means he/she is an idiot! They are not in love with you, but you're good enough to be their spouse, cuz they think a spouse should be a good person, not necessarily one to enjoy your time with 24/7.
Kitteney Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 I see two possible ways to look at this. He/She apparently wants to have his/her cake and eat it too. They want to go exploring but hope you will still be around when they come back from their travels. OR It means they want to marry someone like you but simply not you and not any time soon. Either way, it doesn't look good.
RecordProducer Posted September 7, 2005 Posted September 7, 2005 I see two possible ways to look at this. He/She apparently wants to have his/her cake and eat it too. They want to go exploring but hope you will still be around when they come back from their travels. Agreed.
Candy Cane Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 I had an ex tell me, "you are the one I want to marry, but not the person I want to be with right now". What's that mean? It means "blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." Do not give that person the time of day until he/she grows up some.
sweetie7 Posted September 9, 2005 Posted September 9, 2005 Actually, my best friend feels this way about her boyfriend. What she means is that she loves him to death and knows that he would make the perfect husband. They are very comfortable together, she can be herself, they never fight, he treats her like gold, is stable, etc. BUT she is 22 years old, not ready to get married and wants to have some fun before even thinking about marriage. She wants to go out with other people but knows she wants to end up with her bf. Some people might say that this means she doesn't truely love him, but I think in any relationship there are doubts and apprehensions. She is torn over what to do and doesn't want to have any regrets in the future,
Kitteney Posted September 12, 2005 Posted September 12, 2005 She is torn over what to do and doesn't want to have any regrets in the future, You can't miss what you've never had.
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