vee123 Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 Alright, I'm back. The woman I like is leaving at the end of this week. I've liked her probably for a year or so, actually prior to that as well but I was in a ltr. I've posted about her before but the thread is too old to post in and below was originally written as a reply/update to the last thread I made... We even had some awkward chit chat today due to work duties I was doing with one of her colleagues who is relatively new-ish, where we had to assist customers. Woman I like asked me if I got the message from her manager that was sent a little earlier to staff about her having leaving drinks and asked "are you going...you don't have to, it's okay." I was like "yeah, probably.." then I said "umm maybe, not sure". She was there with her colleague but we were in the same area. She asked me a few questions while she was around like my age, school I went too. How I like current job compared to old, how long have I been in the company, I answered some questions a bit poorly in hindsight and mainly asked her the same questions back.. the other colleague was there but I didn't ask her anything, I probably should have... But anyway I digress or dissect way too much. I want to ask her out but... I'm thinking she must have a boyfriend (if she does I ain't never heard of him, but I think she too desirable/pretty to be single). Obviously, as is demonstrated by my posts I'm not confident in getting the result I would like with her... I'm not sure about the leaving drink thing as I'm sure there will be other guys going along who probably like her too.. plus I wouldn't specifically be going with anyone and the place is a little bit out of the way from our workplace.
preraph Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Go to the drink. Yes, there will be other people there. See if she will share her email address or phone number with you to stay in touch. 1
mortensorchid Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Since she's leaving the company you both work for, I think it would be at least in your best interest to hang onto her contact information (phone number, email, etc.), and even friend her on Facebook if you wish (and haven't yet). Since you're not under the same roof working, you can have a more personal relationship with one another. Will this lead to a dating one? It might but you can at least keep the door open immediately to have a personal relationship outside of your working one.
coolheadal Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Alright, I'm back. The woman I like is leaving at the end of this week. I've liked her probably for a year or so, actually prior to that as well but I was in a ltr. I've posted about her before but the thread is too old to post in and below was originally written as a reply/update to the last thread I made... We even had some awkward chit chat today due to work duties I was doing with one of her colleagues who is relatively new-ish, where we had to assist customers. Woman I like asked me if I got the message from her manager that was sent a little earlier to staff about her having leaving drinks and asked "are you going...you don't have to, it's okay." I was like "yeah, probably.." then I said "umm maybe, not sure". She was there with her colleague but we were in the same area. She asked me a few questions while she was around like my age, school I went too. How I like current job compared to old, how long have I been in the company, I answered some questions a bit poorly in hindsight and mainly asked her the same questions back.. the other colleague was there but I didn't ask her anything, I probably should have... But anyway I digress or dissect way too much. I want to ask her out but... I'm thinking she must have a boyfriend (if she does I ain't never heard of him, but I think she too desirable/pretty to be single). Obviously, as is demonstrated by my posts I'm not confident in getting the result I would like with her... I'm not sure about the leaving drink thing as I'm sure there will be other guys going along who probably like her too.. plus I wouldn't specifically be going with anyone and the place is a little bit out of the way from our workplace. If you don't know she has a boyfriend you can find out by saying, I guess your boyfriend or husband is coming to pick you up on your very last day? See what she says. You can rephrase this sentence as well. 1
Author vee123 Posted August 21, 2018 Author Posted August 21, 2018 If you don't know she has a boyfriend you can find out by saying, I guess your boyfriend or husband is coming to pick you up on your very last day? See what she says. You can rephrase this sentence as well. I guess if I go for the leaving drink at the end of the week I would find out as they are planning to go straight after work. I definitely don't think she has an husband, as I'm sure it would have been mentioned by someone throughout the years or a wedding ring. I don't use Facebook. So I guess it's either trying to get her email or phone number. I'm not 100% on the leaving drinks thing as I'm a bit of an introvert and already know there will be quite a few extroverts and people who know her better than me there as she's quite popular. I want to go but have both best case and worse case scenarios in my head...(of course worse case being more realistic than best case in my head)
d0nnivain Posted August 21, 2018 Posted August 21, 2018 Just invite her for the drink to wish her well. Why consuming the beverages ask if you can keep in touch. Trade phone #s & go from there. 1
Author vee123 Posted August 24, 2018 Author Posted August 24, 2018 (edited) Damm, I'm so disappointed. I went to the leaving drinks. I thought I'll have a little drink before going. Bought a double when I arrived, then they had a go around everyone say a speech about her that I tried to get out of that bought more attention to me...dammm. There was a couple of main talkers there in general, I was in the outskirts a little... got another double and then ended up talking to her and her friend, chit chatting. Then I got a glass of water. Went loo, needed more water went to the bar and she was there ordering something, we chit chatted again for a bit then went back to the group and I was sitting next to her and her friend. They saw me with another water they was like "are you trying to sober up? are you a light weight? you only had 2 drinks" she said she's a lightweight too. Eat some of her chips she offered. when I drink alot of liquid, I need to keep going to the loo. mannn, I say all this to say I'm so disappointed I never tried anything and I had opportunities, maybe not as I would like (closed off/rejection free) but, fml. Some people started filtering off and I was waiting it out, hoping to do something. She mentioned living somewhere near my area, I was hoping to leave in her direction and chat to her outside but it didn't happen, her friend ordered a cab to take her home. I got 2 goodbye hugs one inside (well, everyone did). second one with a sort of kiss on the cheek before she got in the cab, probably a usual greeting/goodbye to some. Afterwards I'm thinking I didn't even ask if she had a boyfriend. There's probably no hope now... If there are any options it would probably be through her friend at work or on linkedin or something or maybe bumping into her in the street (very unlikely) but she lives about a mile away from me, who knows. Or maybe it's just obvious she's not into me? or I've probably been too beta and messed up any hope. Edited August 24, 2018 by vee123
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