Mrin Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 I've given this advice to some of my female friends who are just dipping their toes into the world of online dating and a few have suggested that I share this here. So, here goes... Since pic focused apps are all the rage, here are my do's and don'ts when it comes to picking the right 5 (or so) pics for your OLD profile. I imagine these work for what women want from men too to some degree. The Truth: If you're halfway good looking you're going to get tons of matches anyhow as most dudes just swipe right on anything that is more or less symmetrical. What I am talking about here is whether the guy will put in any effort after matching. Must Haves Have a good headshot. Not the overhead, looking up selfie. But full frontal face shot. Most women already get this so I won't belabor the point. At least one full body shot. And by full body I mean just that - show your body. Not covered up in some sort of figure obscuring clothing etc... Men want to see your physique. I know this can be kinda scary for women who are body conscious but seriously, if the match works out we're going to see your body anyhow. Plus, don't think all men all want the same thing. We don't. I for one don't care for twiggy yoga women. I want _curves_. Other Things to Do Second full body shot. A really good profile has at least 2 full body shots. One should be "dressy" while the other casual or activity based. Your "passion" shot. A pic doing what you like to do. If it is being a mom, put it on there but feel free to blur your child(ren). Sports. Exercising. Hobbies. All great. Things NOT to Do Say No to the Social Media Lens. I can't stress this enough. If women hate dudes in sunglasses and hats, men hate the stupid social media puppy dog nose or silly snapchat glasses plastered on your face. At best, it shows that you're some sort of social media addict. Look, I know you think it shows you are fun. It doesn't. Find some other way to be fun. Seriously, if you have a social media lens shot in your current rotation, take it out. Now. Careful with the group shots. Nothing is worse than a profile full of group shots and having to play the "one of these things is just like the other" to figure out who you are. Also, if you are posting a group shot with you and other women, make sure you're the most attractive of the bunch. Seriously, you don't want the dude saying, "man, I wish she was the one on the right!" Careful with dudes your own age too. Unless it is obvious that they're your brother or friends, it doesn't exactly say, "hey, i'm available!" Frown. Seriously, it is okay to have one or two shots where you don't smile. But if all of your pics are closed lip unsmiling shots it either means you have bad teeth or are decidedly un-fun. So make sure you smile in a few of them. The travel snapshot. Include these only if they fulfill the full body shot requirement OR if you can actually see where you are (e.g. Paris, Machu Picchu). If it is just some grainy pic of you somewhere in the world, then it doesn't do much for us. Use captioning if you can because it give us something to chat you up about. TL;DR - have one good head shot, one good full body shot, one activity shot. Smile. Don't use social media filters/lenses to put stupid crap on your face. 2
Andy_K Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 This is good advice. It's a bit like having an OLD profile with no text in it... sure, you'll still get loads of matches & messages, because you're a girl, but the minority of guys you want to be interested are exactly the ones likely to be put off by it.
kendahke Posted August 20, 2018 Posted August 20, 2018 (edited) It's a bit like having an OLD profile with no text in it... sure, you'll still get loads of matches & messages, because you're a girl, but the minority of guys you want to be interested are exactly the ones likely to be put off by it. I put an ordinary shot of myself as the main picture in my profile, plus shots of me jujed up with hair and makeup, so that one can get a fuller picture of what I actually look like. My OLD policy is no information in the profile, swipe left. I'm assuming you're married/involved and you're mad at your partner for something, so you created an OLD profile to strike back at them. Also, profiles with nothing but mean, unsmiling pics, pics of your children/grandchildren/pets, memes from the interwebs, or a group picture all get swiped left in K-world. Edited August 20, 2018 by kendahke
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