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Fearlesstruck89

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Fearlesstruck89 New Member

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So me and my ex-girlfriend have I've been in a breakup for a little over 2 months now from a two and a half year. I know that doesn't seem like a long time to some of you but it does to me. During our whole relationship we have been through little minor breakups But as time went on I noticed that my love for her began to rise more and more.

 

For about 2 months before she pulled the plug she had began telling me that she was unhappy me being the typical man it went in one ear and out the other. I didn't realize what was going on. I was very selfish and neglectful to her. I don't think that I truly knew how to love not that I'm incapable of it or didn't want to do it. We had a financial disagreement and by the end of the day she had packed all my things in kicked me out the house. The two months that we've been apart have been in unbearable with a lot of depression and anxiety.

 

I began to realize and take a look at myself for my flaws in the things that I did in correctly in our relationship. I analyze them and it working on fixing them. I know that we are no longer together so she's not obligated to help me move on or to give me any information. I'm not ashamed to say that I'm hurting inside and that I miss her. I get the feeling that she is seeing other people which I love her so much where I'd want to support her. I've read advice about no contact and that's what I'm working on hoping that negative emotions can diffuse and maybe we can get back together in the future.

 

I want to know if my situation is hopeless I know that it's easy for people to say oh just move on and I am trying to do just that but at the same time I do look at our past relationship it truly meant something to me, would love to give us another opportunity. No contact has been very hard for me and I have made mistakes in 2 months I'm working very hard at staying strong with it. Anytime that I have failed and I've texted her she has responded to me quickly with cold short responses with an occasional you never did this or you never did that when we were together when I tried to talk to her about the solutions to our problems that could be fixed in a new relationship together.

 

So again is my situation hopeless if you have any additional questions about my situation so you can further help me I greatly appreciate it also please no negativity. Thank you and I hope you all are having a good day.

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ExpatInItaly Established Member

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It's not a good sign when a relationship is riddled with breakups, however minor you might deem them to be. It damages the foundation of the partnership and indicates there are problems that were not addressed.

 

What were all these breakups about along the way?

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d0nnivain Established Member

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Your situation is not hopeless. You will survive & live to love again. However, it's unlikely that you will get back together, nor should you. As has already been pointed out, all those "little" break ups were signs that your relationship was on the rocks. I have been married for almost 10 years. We have never broken up. There were too many cracks in the foundation of your relationship for it to last.

 

As you grieve the loss, you need to reflect on what went wrong & why. You can't fix things with her but you won't make the same mistakes in the future.

 

Hang in there.

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