VisionL09 Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 It's been such a long time but i want to write a little bit about where i've been mentally and some of the stuff i've been through since i last posted on my other thread Last time i posted on my other thread was mid February right after my ex texted me from a random number. A month after that, i remember randomly going to one of her social medias thinking that she was still inactive on there and there i saw what really opened my eyes better than anything yet. I saw her with her new boyfriend and that made me feel really really uncomfortable... for literally 30 seconds. after those 30 seconds, i felt relieved and smiled because i thought that was going to have me depressed for days but it didn't and wow what an amazing feeling that was. Seeing what i saw changed me a little because i started thinking like "ok .. she's gone for good.. she's not coming back ever .. now worry about yourself and the things you can control and try your very best to completely forget about her" not saying i wasn't already thinking like that but honestly before i saw that pic of her with her new boyfriend.. there was some hope for something.. don't know for what exactly but i still wanted something from her. anyways i Continued to move on, 2 months ago , my sisters boyfriend breaks up with her after my sister was already living with him for 7-8 months. Me and my sister are really close so seeing her hurt like that bothered me so i tried my best to be there for her. I was basically telling her stuff i've learned since my breakup, stuff that i've learned from the people that have written on my thread etc. and it's ridiculous how different yet so similar every break up is, specially when you look at the dumpers actions pre break up and post break up. Fast forwarding to 3 days ago, after obviously thinking that i am never hearing from my ex again and thinking that for months now, i get a text from her. I did not reply. this is almost funny to me. It's been 11 months, almost a year and she's still trying to contact me, i even thought she deleted my number just like how i deleted hers, specially since she was in or is in another relationship. I remember seeing that text 3 days ago and just feeling so much sadness, not because i want anything to do with her but because of her.. i don't want her to ever feel any regret for her decisions. I want her to be happy and completely forget about me already. There's no reason why we should be talking to each other at this point in our lives. i hope she figures it all out and if she doesn't then oh well.. what can i do? am i a bad person for ignoring her? 1
Marc878 Posted August 19, 2018 Posted August 19, 2018 NC is for you. She has to figure her end out. That's no concern of yours any longer.
Author VisionL09 Posted August 19, 2018 Author Posted August 19, 2018 NC is for you. She has to figure her end out. That's no concern of yours any longer. thanks marc, i remember you from my other thread and i appreciate everything you've told me even if you just wanted to slap some sense into me at times i know she will probably find other ways to text/message me because if getting in another relationship and being with somebody else didn't help her forget about me then there aren't a lot of things out there that will help her do that. oh well.. Hope she accepts what has happened and grows from it.
Author VisionL09 Posted November 21, 2018 Author Posted November 21, 2018 can't believe i'm back here but this has been like a journal for me and it just feels good to just let stuff out. It's been a little over a year since the break up and the chick is still trying to text and call me. i told my current gf and she got mad at me cause i told her that i don't want to change my number but she thinks that i don't want to change my number cause of my ex and it's like gross man that's not why and i don't want her to even text me at this point like at all.. but anyways 6 days ago my ex texted me and she said this "Hey a**hole, need to talk to you" i laughed cause like show me respect .. i mean it's the least she can do at this point after what she did if she's trying to get in contact but i ignored it and didn't reply, last night, i get a call from her but i didn't pick up and it's like dude what the hell do you want from me? it's frustrating cause i was out here trying to be a nice boyfriend and tell my current girl so we can maybe laugh at this nonsense together and she ends up becoming irate. It's not like i even want to reply to the chick and at this point there's nothing i can do to make her go away forever which is why my current girlfriend wants me to try changing my number but she'll just email me or message me on social media so there really is no point... but like what does this chick want from me ? so funny to me
preraph Posted November 21, 2018 Posted November 21, 2018 You need to block her phone through your phone provider or if it's a smartphone, get Mr. Number and block it that way and don't answer strange calls you can't identify. She wants to yank your chain, that's all. She can't stand it that you've just moved on. Block all social media if you haven't already. It doesn't even mean she wants to get together. She's curious why she can't pull your leash anymore and by calling, she may even be maliciously trying to get you in trouble with a new girlfriend.
Author VisionL09 Posted November 22, 2018 Author Posted November 22, 2018 You need to block her phone through your phone provider or if it's a smartphone, get Mr. Number and block it that way and don't answer strange calls you can't identify. She wants to yank your chain, that's all. She can't stand it that you've just moved on. Block all social media if you haven't already. It doesn't even mean she wants to get together. She's curious why she can't pull your leash anymore and by calling, she may even be maliciously trying to get you in trouble with a new girlfriend. i stopped answering weird calls months ago because of her lol and i will look in to that mr. number stuff but yeah idc if she doesn't want to get back together cause i dont wan't that at all and the thought of that makes me cringe but thank you
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